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Even with no actual experience I still believe I fall under this category, I wonder if I need to manifest the law of attraction or something even though I do think that’s bs.

You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. Dating apps are the only way I’ve tried dating as I dont have a social life but dating apps have been successful for quite a few people I know. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?

I had an acquaintance who I know finds me physically attractive. He would subtly stare and look my way when I’m around - this has been going on for half a year now. Good news is that we got recently acquainted and I believe he might be pass the attraction stage to crush phase?

we had a nice 1:1 catch-up where he displayed all the signs of attraction (very animated (way more than his usual self), quite the gentleman) and then he couldn’t stop smiling when he saw me around. Trying to spend more time w me / asking if I was going to joint Events

And then the weekend passed and when I was around him this week, he seemed on-edge, purposely passing by my side but walking really fast like swooshing pass me. His natural demeanour is cool call and collected so I obviously noticed

is this a sign he is not comfortable around me (for whatever reasons) or that he just does not know what to do with his feelings for me?

and if it’s because he doesn’t know what to do with feelings, what can I do to make it easier for both of us? I notice guys do get very uncomfortable around me and even though I am very certain they are at least physically attracted to me, it still makes me feel like an awkward person if someone is avoiding me.