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My girlfriend Bianca acts like she’s not into me. For example, when people ask us how we met. She tells people “I didn’t wanna date him but my friend Becky told me to”. When that’s not even the truth. She’s the one who approached me and said “we should hang out”.

Bianca makes me feel like a simp. She acts like she’s not into me. She rarely has interest in sex. She says it turns her off how I breath so hard n deep during sex. We have sex once a week if I’m lucky. Then she acts like she’s doing me a favour because we have sex. Bianca always shows interest in other dudes and she’s not affectionate like I want her to be.

Feeling so emotionally neglected, I broke up with Bianca and immediately started a relationship with a girl named Shelly. Shelly was the best thing that happened to me in so long. The sex was amazing, she’s very affectionate, and she makes me feel like the man. But, the only problem is, Shelly lives in another city. She wants me to move to her city but I hate the city she lives in. It’s too crime infested, I know I can’t live there. And Shellys not willing to move her either. So Shelly is not forever.

A month after I started dating Shelly long distance, Bianca called me crying in the middle of night. Saying that she misses me and wants me to come over. My dumbass went back to Bianca and now I’m juggling two girlfriends. I’m emotionally tied to Bianca and sexually addicted to Shelly. If Bianca was giving me the love, sex, and affection I wouldn’t be messing with Shelly. I can’t drop either of them. What do I do?

It’s true that men are more likely to turn to unhealthy, self destructive and even violent means to deal with repressed emotions. More alcoholism, drugs, crime, fighting, risky activities, etc. Shorter lifespans too

Now if we have productive means to deal with our emotions e. g. sports, meaningful work, exercise, projects, inventions, hobbies, etc that can be a good thing. But even that can only go so far in my opinion.

My approach is that men should absolutely seek help but do it PRIVATELY. Join prívate mens groups, get counseling, attend private support groups, etc. But don’t go around telling people about it unless it’s someone you can 100% trust (best friend or a family member). Don’t go into details about it with the woman you are dating either.

We have to put on a different face in public and especially around women.

Personally I am so f*cking fed up with women who keep encouraging men to “open up” about their feelings and emotions. It’s has to be the most insidious shit test of them all. Once a man does this she feels relief that he is more “relatable” since he is acting more like a woman. But at the same time she loses attraction and RESPECT if he acts this way.

Most women have no idea how important it is that they want women to RESPECT them as real men. That is subconsciously the biggest Freudian motivation for men to act the way they do (for better or worse). Yet women want to destroy that for the short term “relief” they get for seeing a man get emotional.