Girls, Did I loose my chance for my crush?

[Anonymous]

There's this girl I had a crush on for a while and once I finally told her how I felt through text a long message she said is this a joke? She also said I have a hard time believing this and I'm not sure how to react then she told me maybe I should talk to her at school when I see her sometime I told her sure if I see her then she said you can just say hi if you want. I was supposed to been approached her but was too shy to do so I even walked passed her mutiple times I regret it badly so I made like an excuse like I couldn't find her and she responded oh it's alright Is there away I can fix this?

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help your shyness.

In order to approach a person, you must be pro-active and jump over your own shadow. To work on your shyness or social anxiety, you can perhaps join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

[PrettyPriya]

Reading the details, it started to sound as if she was not interested. The further I read though, if she wasn't she would not have asked how to fix this. So, I would look at the good points here.

She wanted to fix the awkward exchange. That is a positive. If she had no interest, she would just blow you off and that would be that. Instead, she wants to give it another shot.

You are going to have to get over your social anxiety and shyness. That isn't something anyone can help you with but you. I suggest really looking at the whole situation and how there are some positives to get over the fear of approaching her.

You already know she wants to try again (communicating). The ball is in your court, and you need to be the one to take charge of the situation. I recommend have 2 or 3 talking points ready to go, so you aren't faced with the awkwardness you did the first time.

If you know anything about this girl, use those things as potential conversation starters. Best of luck to you.

[Anonymous]

You lost me by spelling "lose" wrong.

[dustybiker]

Be brave.