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No one likes to take the blame for the reason why the relationship failed or ended, but I guess it's good to reflect on it so you can change if needed...

So, thinking back to your past relationships, did the relationship end because of you or because of your (ex) partner?
Or was it mutual/both?
Why did you break up?
If applicable, have you changed?

Thinking back on my past relationships, I always found myself attracted to the guys who had some mental issues. Great at masking it, but later found out the struggled a lot and it caused issues in the relationship. I was always the one by their side, but they'd push me away due to these mental issues that they left unresolved. I was always the one to get broken up with because they just needed to fix themselves and couldn't maintain a relationship. I wouldn't say either of us were to blame for the relationship ending, but the reason for the breakup was always because of their own issues.

So, I have a few tendencies when I’m angry to blame my boyfriend or yell, and The other day he broke up with me, as his therapist called me emotionally abusive. The kicker is, in November I told him I knew I could no longer have outbursts; and signed up for therapy. Due to my therapist and I both being out of town in Nov-Dec, I’ve only had 16 sessions that last a half our each (so eight hours total) and my progress has not been linear. I have always been clear with him that these outbursts are not meant towards him but stress or anger towards myself. He is on the spectrum, so it’s very difficult for him to process that (according to him), but he is aware. I just think that it’s unfair to label me, as I am actively working to rectify these issues. Do you label those who are actively trying to change abusers? Both my ex and my father are emotionally abusive, and neither is cognizant or their actions, but I have always been of mine.