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I think a coworker was flirting with me. I caught him checking me out a few times and before Christmas he strikes up a conversation with me and tried to extend it during the entire shift. He also kept asking me questions about my plans for the night, weekend, my living situation and offered several times that day to drive me home since we live in the same neighborhood. I had a feeling he was flirting with me because he seemed genuinely curious and always agreed with everything I said as if he wanted me to approve of him.

About 4 weeks later he came into my office (wearing pretty much cologne) even though there were plenty of empty rooms available so I figured he might like me a bit. But that day he was very busy and very disinterested in the conversation as if he tried to make the point that I’m not his type. Later he disclosed that his girlfriend was about to move into his apartment.

Now my questions are:

did he actually flirt the first time or was he just trying to be nice to a new acquaintance?

And if he did, why would he try to suck up to me if he already has a relationship and then pull back and act super disinterested in me?

The last time I “dated” someone I was 23, we were in a STR for about 3 months & it ended because to me it felt like settling. Since then, I’ve met up with men from dating apps on and off throughout the years. Maybe 1-3 were kind of sketchy, that was in my early twenties too but since then all the other ones were decent but I just didn’t feel them. And I think it was mutual, sometimes I’d hear back, sometimes I wouldn’t but it was known the feeling was reciprocated. I’m old let’s admit it, I’ve never been in love but intimacy scares me & I don’t really have much of a sex drive at all. Sometimes I have to ask myself if I like men because even though I know I do, I do not like any of these guys in the end. When we communicate on the app it seems fine but when I meet them in person I’m just so bleh towards them. They don’t catfish me, they just don’t live up to my expectations & I’ve learnt to not have any at this point in my life. I don’t like women sexually or romantically, I didn’t meet up with anyone in 2022 & today was the first time I met up with someone from
Hinge. Clearly was meh, should I just toss in the towel? Is it simply a case of just not meeting the ONE? Let me know if you have any follow up questions

Are you desperately trying to stay single?

My mum called me out of the blue to check up on me and asked how work was going. I told her everything was fine and that there was nothing new to my life, she then tried to do the whole “slip in question” asking me when are you going to see someone and start dating and getting married and giving me grandchildren.

Look i know she means well i really do, but i’m not interested to commit to anyone yet.

Do you feel the same? Parents harassing you about it? Maybe your friends are in a different stage in their life and want to wish you the same joy that they are, but you are frankly ain’t interested at all yet?

Or are you the exact opposite and trying to desperately get into a relationship?