Should you drop female friends who cheat on their boyfriends/husbands because it shows a lack of character and affects your friendship trust?

[Anonymous]

I have some questionable friendships I’m finally thinking about. Some of them tell me they hang with other guys when they’re exclusive with a man. And keep in touch with exes. Or how they took a break from their man for a bit to be with someone else for a while. It’s off putting and that’s not how I roll in relationships. I’m loyal.
the question is what if they are nice friends toward you? Even if you’re slightly put off by this behavior.

[Kaneki05]

Eh it depends. It would be hard to compare these two situations for example, one has a childhood best friend they are your family just due to how close you two are they get a new boyfriend they are happy at first but a couple weeks in it becomes bad.
They cheat on their boyfriend due to it going so wrong.
Would you see it as fair to judge them harshly and cut off been so close to them because you could no longer trust them? Or do you see this and get it does not effect anything between you two been so close.

I think it just highly varies from situation, and some people mature more slowly than others so maybe they just aren't there yet but will be one day so is that a reason to ditch them until they do?

The only thing I make clear is I ain't going to lie and cover up for someone who is cheating. But as for choosing not to be a friend with that person anymore that would be due to other issues I think.

[Kaneki05]

If my bestfriend cheated on his partner I would probably punch him and give him a hard time, but I wouldn't stop been his bestfriend and I am pretty sure he would do the same back. Fights can happen without it necessarily needing to ruin a friendship.

[Arush9]

If she is not loyal with her partner in "RELATIONSHIP" it doesn't mean that she is not loyal in "FRIENDSHIP" with me. So i will not drop her in any case, if she is loyal in friendship.
I don't care how she is treating her boyfriend/husband, if she is treating n behaving good with me. I will also behave same with her rather than dropping her.
Even if any of my female friend is slut, & society/ guys spreading her nudes or talking bad about her blah blah etc... But she is treating & behaving good with me, then i will not drop such friend even if she slut in society.
Sorry if anyone feels offended after reading my opinion.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I do. I wouldn't like to be assumed that I tend to have that behavior too. Same for men and women.

Even for women who try to interfere in a couple's relationship too. I did drop them. It's very sick. Their habits were annoying already. I'm not so sure, but I found that it could be the boarderline personality. I prefer a professional to give more details.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Thank you for the MHO.

[Justmisscurious]

This is a really good question. An act like that is a reflection of their morals and character (the lack thereof). If you want to retain your sense of integrity, then you should ask her to tell her partner. If she refuses, then I would personally distance myself from that person. That’s just me though.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Bad moral character spreads to other things. Yes, you should

[Billlewis]

No, I'd only drop guys who cheat on their girlfriends.

[MrOracle]

This type of person has no morals or values. They will be nice to you as long as it benefits them, but the moment it doesn't, they will turn on you like you are a complete stranger. They only care about themselves and have no guiding principles or integrity.

[Asker]

that makes a lot of sense. It’s so uncomfortable. I’ll tell them about a guy I like too and they’ll say how he doesn’t have a good job or something. Always undermining me in some sense.

[MrOracle]

People with no morals are almost never really happy, and so to make themselves feel better about their unhappy situations, they very often tear other people down, so that they can feel superior to someone for a minute or two. And women especially do this, as women generally don't fight physically like men do, but rather "fight" via reputation destruction.

These women are toxic (a word that's very overused, but actually applies here), and one way or another, they will make your life more miserable because of your association with them. It sounds like they're already doing that...

[Asker]

You’re totally right. I also live in a big city and I realize it’s so hard to make friends who are normal lol. All my best friends live elsewhere and aren’t like this. It’s so sad. Being genuine is just not a trait a lot of people have anymore.
Thanks so much for your insight on this by the way 🙂

[MrOracle]

Big cities attract people on the left, often the extreme left, and the left is majorly female, because the left primarily uses emotion-based arguments for their positions and women are more susceptible to emotional manipulation than men (though there is certainly a subset of men who are just as susceptible).

And these women have been heavily indoctrinated into an ideology that prioritizes financial status and lifestyle appearance over all else.

In this ideology, men are useless and unnecessary and only of any value if they can provide an Instagram lifestyle. And other women are direct competitors for these rare men and should another woman dare to find happiness, the leftist woman must dismantle that happiness so that she is just as happy (miserable) as the leftist woman. This is why your "friends" are so quick to tear you down. They cannot allow you to be happy when they are not.

[Jamie05rhs]

I have asked myself the same question. I think we need to distance ourselves from these people.
For example, one of my friends divorced his wife. And it really pissed me off, because she was one of the sweetest girls I have ever met. So I don't talk to him much anymore. I didn't officially de-friend him, but I'm not actively trying to reach out. I don't really have a desire to have him in my life, just because I am so put off by what he did.

I have other friends who are kind of man-whores, and I basically just sideline them and I ignore their messages a lot.

[abc3643]

This is a good question and my wife and I were confronted with this. We did nothing and part of the reason was that both persons in that couple cheated. They split up, then got back together, then finally divorced.

I am glad that we did nothing because otherwise she was a good friend and was there for us when we were down and out. Still, at the time, it was upsetting me but I also was not aware of the husband fucking around either.

[RavVid]

Look I would resent being made part of someone else's deceit and betrayal. If someone tells me they are cheating than that has involved me in it.

Yeah I know some people will cover for a person cheating - I'm not one of them.

I'll just quietly get that person out of my life.

[DarkWinterNights]

This is actually a pretty impressive self reflection more people need to do in their lives. A loooot of people I know and even related to, hang out with friends who are frankly, pretty terrible people. I’ve seen single, miserable women convince happily married women that they aren’t really happy and sabotage their marriages, leaving them all more miserable than before.


It really is important the company that you choose to keep.

[confusedandromantic]

I’ve had a few friends like this. I called out one for her behaviour and the others I just distanced myself from. If they are the type to do that sort of thing to other women, I would never trust fully that they wouldn’t do the same thing to me if I got in a relationship. And people often label you by who you hang out with and I didn’t want to be labelled as someone who condones that sort of stuff

[yovem457455]

If they are old, yes, since they can betray you at any time. If they are teenagers just don't take them seriously. My female friends cheated on their boyfriends but I didn't care since I needed a study group, plus all teenage girls do that. I also didn't take them seriously for a long-term relationship, they were just friends.

[KrakenAttackin]

YES. I would have serious second thought about a woman who hangs around cheaters.

[Asker]

I didn’t know this til later on in the friendship that they partake in shady acts.

[KrakenAttackin]

Asker... Men who have any experience with women have radar for sketchy women, also cheaters always tell on themselves.

If you hang out with cheating women, men will put you in the same bucket.

[RavenDarkheart]

I’ve not had a friend that did, but I wouldn’t. My friends are really close I wouldn’t abandon them easily. I’ll be there asking what they were thinking.

[JHAYES317]

Maybe the first time, but if they do it again clearly they have a toxic mindset and you shouldn’t hang around them

[RavenDarkheart]

@JHAYES317 I actually agree 100% with you on this one. As my response there said I’d be there asking “what the $&$@“ were you thinking.” They do it again, my presence at that point was useless, and I won’t put myself in further stress or potential danger when it is clearly not helping.

[blueonblack22]

Women seem to monitor what their friends do more often than guys do. Especially in regards to sex lives. Also they seem more influenced by their friend’s opinions than guys are.

[Cutegirl06]

I've seen girls like this in school. They have boyfriends and are hanging all over other boys and their boyfriends still stay with these girls. Makes me sick!

[Flatmanlewis]

We tend to become like those around us. Our crowd is our character.

[Nikki1989]

No, that is none of my business.

[JHAYES317]

It shows that they are bad people so it may not be your business but it would reflect on your character by who you choose to associate with

[LazerBean]

Yes. In fact I don't keep company with anyone if I know they're having sex outside of marriage.

[OtterMan68]

yes. They are toxic, and if they'll lie on cheat on their significant others, they'll do it to their friends.

[Asker]

One of these friends is SO boy crazy and it’s weird. She’s obsessed with our personal trainer…in fact only started coming with me to sessions just to be close with him 🙄 I actually see him as a person and our relationship as a partnership since I’m an athlete. I don't know some people are so shady.

[Anonymous]

You become like the people you surround yourself with. Those women you describe are low quality women. Is that what you want to be like? Your choice.

[Asker]

Of course not! I didn’t realize they were even this bad until I got to know them better 😂 I was like what…?

[TheSpaceGnome]

I drop any friend who cheats on their spouse, those people are trash.

[Keith469]

Honesty and personal integrity are bedrock qualities that I refuse to compromise about in all my close relationships

[Goodboy11]

Its sign of lack of character, delete him/her

[admles]

I would drop them so fast, I don’t tolerate cheaters in my life

[Enginn]

Maybe. Its up to you. Cheaters are dishonest people.

[Anonymous]

I would only consider doing that if a female friend tried to seduce me.

[Roudyrebel8]

Although I don't condone cheating I don't think so

[HelpfulWoman]

-YES.

[jahaims]

Duh.