So I recently started a new job around three months ago after getting out of a really bad patch in my life where I was unemployed for a year following leaving an abusive relationship. I’m really happy in my new job and my life has really taken a turn for the better. I feel like I’m in such an amazing place in my life, my new job is really glamorous, I am working alongside medical professionals and I get to run events with doctors. My work colleagues are all really nice and supportive and we get put in the best hotels for events and get all our meals out paid for whilst we are away working at events.
Ever since I started my new job, my friend has had nothing positive to say about it. All her comments are really negative and designed to make me doubt my new job. She keeps saying ‘it’s a shame you now work in something different to your field you did your degree in but at least one day you could go back to working in your old field again’. When I got put up in a 5 star hotel, she was viewing all my Instagram stories and replying to them straight away, but saying things like ‘are they paying your expenses for meals?’ And I said yes except alcohol and then she responded with ‘that’s the least they could do for you’. Then I told her that I had to pay a £100 deposit to stay in the hotel but I got the money back the day after I checked out the hotel, and she wouldn’t stop going on about how awful it was that work didn’t pay the deposit beforehand and kept bringing it up to her family.
On top of this, when I met up with her she kept asking me loads of questions about my work event trip and what happened, who I went out for dinner with but she was fishing for negative information like asking me if my colleagues are mean to me etc. She asked me what my salary was and whether there were any progression opportunities in the role.
What is her problem? Why is she being so negative about my life and new job? Why can’t she just be happy for me?
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Yo girl, something is definitely up with your “friend”. All those passive aggressive comments and constant questions about your salary/expenses? Super shady behavior.
It reeks of jealousy and low-key hostility towards you doing well. Like she’s trying to put little digs in to make herself feel better or something.
I’d be real wary of telling her too many details about your fancy work trips or money stuff going forward. Some haters will try to rain on your parade no matter what.
Next time she starts in with the negativity, call her out real smooth. Like “I know you must be happy for me, so what’s with all the doubts?”
Bet she backpedals fast. And if the behavior keeps up, put some distance girl. You don’t need that toxic energy dragging you down!
Surround yourself with people who hype you up instead. Seems like sis is just mad she ain’t living it up like you out here. Keep winning Sis!
Do u not find it odd hoe much time u spend asking about toxic friends