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Should I just move on?

I was posting stories about how a guy coerced me and then this guy online tried to get close to me in a friendly way then we exchanged pics and he was like OMG you’re my future wife. And he started asking me if I wanted to have this basically D/s relationship with him where he tells me what to eat and wear all the time. Now I agreed and I like being under someone but I know now that I can’t just submit to any old Joe.

So at the time he was talking about how I’m going to be his wife and he soon flew from Chicago to my state. Thinking back I’m like why would he pay for a plane ticket just to lie, pump and dump me when he can easily do the same in his own state. It’s weird.

That’s why I’m questioning what the hell was this all about?

Anyway, we were together for a few days then he flew back to Chicago. He was still talking about how I was going to go to Chicago and move in with him and get married. I started asking about like ‘so when are you going to tell your family about me’ because I didn’t realize he hadn’t… and he said he can’t tell his mom yet because she wouldn’t understand our D/s relationship. I was like ok… but I started getting annoyed because be was being “too busy” (now I know that’s a fake ass excuse), he immediately blocked me EVERYWHERE even on the website we met LOL, and that was a year ago.

What was his whole point? Why did he do all that stuff?

According to an article written by Katya Koval, several men stated that they no longer approach women due to the following:

“Women want to be approached. But if you approach them and they don’t like you or think you’re attractive enough, you will be called a creep.” — Jake.

Roberto, 42 years old and single, was asked why he didn’t dare approach women. He replied, “I have never gotten a clear signal from a woman. My female friends have pointed out positive body language as signals, but they are too ambiguous for me to act on.”

Kane, 35 years old and single, shares, “I don’t approach women anymore because it’s too tedious with little chance of payoff. It’s either they ignore you, reject you, shame you, or, worse, accuse you of molestation. If a woman likes me, she should make an effort to approach me.”

Mel, 29 years old, shares, “Women demanding men to chase them while they never approach men themselves is what you could call ‘entitlement.’ I don’t mean that women should start asking men out, but just approaching us to talk would be nice. For women who want equality: If he doesn’t approach you, approach him.”

Evi, 23 years old, claims “It’s easier to get women and land a date online than cold approaching them. I’m currently in College and our campus consists of 80% women. It’s not necessary to approach women anymore.”

Nathan, 22 years old, admits, “It’s mainly the negative consequences that’s stopping me. It’s scary when you hear stories about guys and fake accusations on campus. I worked hard to get into College. I’m not going to risk getting expelled for something I didn’t do.”

katya-koval.medium.com/why-men-dont-approach-women-anymore-159975861c08

I have Asian roots and my family are pressuring me to get married because I’m getting “too old” even though I just recently turned 30. My boyfriend and I are waiting at least another year before getting engaged so we can pay for the wedding ourselves.

I know in Asian culture still being unmarried at 30 is considered late but a lot of my non Asian friends are also still unmarried even at 35+ and some are even still single - yet they aren’t getting pressured by their families to get hitched.

Just interested to know what the people of GaG would consider to be too old to still be single/unmarried!

She won’t butt out. At first I took it as “okay, she means well”, but now I don’t know. I took a long break from dating and was fine just being single, and she says “nope, you’re 40 now and you’ve been single too long. You need a man in your life. Since you’re friends with me you’re getting a man whether you want one or not” (she loves to matchmake). I realize she has a point, so I get on Facebook dating. She saw me on the apps one day at lunchtime (we work together) and she’s telling me who to swipe right on, who to swipe left on, etc and when I didn’t swipe right on a guy she told me too, she literally took my phone out of my hand and swiped on a whole bunch of guys because I (according to her) “clearly don’t know how to pick men”. Eventually I did match with a guy who I really liked, we’ve been dating for almost a year, and she doesn’t like him. Apparently she’s got someone all picked out who she wants to fix me up with (who’s a really nice guy and financially well off but I’m not attracted to him). The guy understands and said it’s fine but she won’t stop and says “this guy’s perfect for you, and your boyfriend’s a loser. Dump him and give this other guy a chance.” (The guy is definitely loaded and my boyfriend supports himself well, but he treats me well and we make each other happy).

she’s gotten to the point where she’s literally taken my phone out of my hand and texted my boyfriend from my phone making really ridiculous demands on him (like demanding he get me a Louis Vuitton bag for my birthday which I know he can’t afford). She’s caused some bad fights between us this way.

I’ve tried telling her to butt out but she doesn’t. She’s dating a guy who is 25 years older than us and is trying to push me to date much older as well. My boyfriend is early 40’s, like me. Nothing wrong with dating older men, but if I’m happy why can’t she just butt out?