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So, I am a second-generation immigrant from a very traditional and conservative country, now living in one of the most liberal Western countries in the world. I am very grateful to be living here as the quality of life and opportunities are just a lot better; however, needless to say, the cultural differences are immense.

One of the things that always bothered me growing up was this "rush" to lose your virginity, especially as a guy. My friends would drag me along to clubs and stuff, and I'm not a bad-looking guy by any means, and opportunities for me to have "one-night stands" have presented themselves, but I never really had any interest in this.

Call me corny, but the idea of being intimate with someone I do not have a very strong emotional connection with, someone who couldn't be my wife in the future, did not appeal to me.

Guys talk about this stuff, and I am open about this in my friend group as I don't feel like lying about it, but I find myself being the subject of "virgin" jokes quite often, especially considering my age (which isn't an abnormal thing in my home country).

Now, I know it's all in good fun and I know they have no malicious intent, but I can't help but wonder if this would be a problem for potential future mates. So my question to you girls is, if a guy you were dating in his mid to late twenties said he was a virgin, would you immediately associate that with negative attributes? Would this be a problem or perhaps not your first choice, would you be indifferent or heck even prefer it?

I ask because I know that the 1960s and early 1970s were pivotal times in the USA and Europe. I will even go as far as to say that Europe is even further away with gender roles than the USA in some ways, but when did this shift happen?

Each generation is clearly more and more equal than the previous... I ask because this is a very progressive time we have lived in over the years and so much has changed; even dating is so different from how it was in our parents generation. (Now everything is more 50/50; the woman pays her half on dates or they take turns every other time paying for each other; women ask men out now, etc., etc.)

Years ago, women were not allowed to work, not allowed to date or have sex before marriage (they were expected to be virgins on their wedding night; imagine marrying someone you are not even sexually compatible with; that must have been torture and felt like a trap), not allowed to vote, not allowed to wear denim jeans, not allowed to wear sneakers, not allowed to have short hair, and not allowed to do anything without her husband's permission first. Some women were not even allowed to have friends; it was so bad! Clearly, things have changed. In many homes, the mother is the only parent raising the kids and working, or she earns more than her husband. You very rarely see a housewife. There are a few reasons for this.

* Women were very unhappy about not being able to work, earn their own money, and have the freedom to use the money they earned.
* Many women felt they missed out on life and spent their adult lives in the house, only raising kids.
* It is simply too expensive for only one spouse to work now.

Imagine how bad things used to be for women. None of that happens today.

I know that in some countries, gender roles are still not as advanced, sadly.

But when did this really start to be noticeable?