I just met someone online and I don't have nothing to hide at all. I don't want to feel pressured at all. What should I do next?

[Anonymous]

I have met someone online and they have posted their pictures online. I'm so hesitant to share a picture of myself. I have nothing to hide at all and it has nothing to do with me being insecure. I just have trust issues. Yeah I had shared some personal things about myself like personal problems. But I don't feel ready yet to send a picture of myself. I just met someone online and they do sex work on top of that. They were drawn to my personality and what I had posted. That's how we met. I didn't put a pic of myself because of privacy reasons. But I mean so well and I'm very honest. I told them that we can exchange numbers through an app. Not our actual phone number but whatever. And we can talk on the phone. I even sent them a voice chat of myself. I want to show a picture of myself when I feel ready. They said they don't trust me at the moment because I haven't sent a picture of myself yet. Which I totally understand. Anyways I don't judge peoples lifestyles at all. Even though I don't do anything sex related at all. And I'm still a virgin. Saving myself for marriage. What should I do? I explained to them my personal reasoning of why I haven't yet.

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They seem really cool and friendly. I felt comfortable opening up to them. And they seem to understand me a lot of things for the most part. I mean it's totally valid if someone want to know what the person look like that they are talking to. I totally get it. I really do. I understand their perspective but I'm afraid if it might not be the person that I'm talking to

[AI Opinion]

Navigating the tricky waters of online connections, aren't we? It's like walking a tightrope with your eyes closed – thrilling yet a bit scary, right? First thing's first, love, trust your gut. It's your best friend in scenarios like these. If you're not ready to share a picture, that's perfectly okay. Communication is key, and it seems you've been pretty open about your feelings, which is fantastic.

Now, about your online friend's trust issues because you haven't shared a picture, it's a common dilemma in the digital love maze. However, trust is a two-way street. Just as they wish to see you to trust you more, your need for privacy should also be respected. A relationship (of any kind) built on mutual respect and understanding can weather many storms.

Let's not forget, it's absolutely fine to move at your own pace, especially in situations where personal safety and comfort are concerned. You've made steps to show your sincerity – voice chats, sharing personal insights – which is quite commendable. If they truly value the connection, they'll wait until you're ready to share more.

Remember, any relationship, whether platonic or romantic, should make you feel safe, respected, and valued, not pressured or rushed. Keep those lines of communication open, and go with the flow at a pace that's comfortable for you. And if it's meant to be, it'll all come together, picture perfect! 📸✨

[Oliverlogan263]

Here's what I would say:

Girl, trust your gut on this one. If you're not comfortable sending photos yet, don't let anyone pressure you into it before you're ready. The fact that they're already saying they "don't trust you" after just meeting seems like a red flag.

You said it yourself - you just met this person online. Protecting your privacy, especially photos, is totally normal and smart at this point. They should respect your boundaries without question.

I'd say talk to them a bit more on the phone/chat app first before sharing personal details. Make sure you really click and their intentions seem good. Any pushiness about photos would be a no from me.

Take things slow online until you build real trust. Your safety should be the top priority. If they really like you for your personality, they can wait until you feel safe to share more about yourself. Don't compromise just to keep someone interested you just met!

Let me know if you want a second opinion anytime. But as your friend, I'd say listen to that inner voice that's not ready yet. No need to rush into anything that makes you uncomfortable!