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Hii there! I need your help!

There is a very shy boy in my college that I like. We are both 21 years old. I thought he might like me as he seemed quite nervous when he was talking to me, he didn't ask me a you, he kept enough distance between us and I have seen him look at me several times and sometimes smile a little (I know these are subtle signs but I thought may be signs). I asked him how he was doing personally and he replied that he was not at all interested in being with anyone and that he should get to know the other person well first and he didn't ask me if I have someone. I told him to exchange social media if I want to ask him something about the school and he said we will meet in person, no need, we are not lost. He never greets first either (I think because he is very shy and doesn't talk to many people). I know his parents are very strict. One time his mother called 2 times when we talked to ask him where he is and why he is late. In social events, he is always with them and he seem kinda lost and unhappy. I believe they influenced him based of his shy and not social behaviour.

Is this typical shy guy behavior to reject someone? Should I give up and move on?

I work in a small office and we all get on really well. The guy in question is one of those “nice guys” who has a joke with everyone and is kind/lovely to everyone so it would be difficult to know whether he was into me.

Also, I’m too shy to ask him at present so I just want to know what you all think.

I’m a 30 year old woman and he is 27. We have a lot of banter, and although he jokes around with all women in the team, he does things with me that he doesn’t with them. For example, he will do silly things to get my attention such as grabbing my hair clip, poking me, touching my keyboard while I’m using it. He also makes silly jokes around me, such as “oh you’re still alive then” after I went home sick. He also “picks” on me in a jokey way and says he does it because I give him a reaction.

He looks at me a lot and we do have a lot of eye contact. I’ve been out drinking when he has, and apparently he’s very “huggy” with me but wouldn’t hug/touch me at work.

When it was my birthday, he arranged the cards and gifts for me at work. When I got a lift into work with another male, he seemed kind of jealous. I asked him to help me with something and he said “why don’t you go and ask (guy who gave me a lift to work)”.