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I have recently discovered the 5 C's of a relationship, though I'm sure we already use them without knowing about the rule.

How to use the 5 C's.

As a Checklist. Evaluate potential or current partners by seeing if they embody these traits.

As a Growth Tool. Intentionally practice these elements to strengthen your existing relationships.

Commonly Cited 5 C's.

Communication/Closeness: The ability to talk openly, listen actively, resolve misunderstandings, and revealing your true self.

Chemistry: The spark, attraction, and the emotional pull that makes you exited about the person.

Compatibility/Commonality: Shared values, goals, and a sense of fitting well together long term.

Commitment: A conscious decision to stick together through challenges, and build a future.

Compassion/Courtesy/Constructive Conflict: Showing care, and understanding, respect, kindness, appreciation, and managing inevitable issues.

I got in my first relationship weeks after I turned 18 and it was out of pity. I didn't really love or even felt sexual attraction to my first girlfriend.

she liked me however and at the time she recently got out of a very life threatening toxic relationship with an asshole who used to abuse her and assaulted her with every random household object he got his hands on. one night her family rescue her from his claws but unfortunately she got emotionally involved and when back to him days later.

he even returned with her that night she when back to him with a machete in his hands threatening her family that he was going to "chop her into piece" if they try to take her away from him again. lucky for her after that night the whole neighbor sided with her family and were able to rescue her from him and she never got emotionally evolved again. days later she found me and fell in love with me.

- therefore my good Gemini side felt bad for her and was telling me to get with her and show her what good man was.

- however my bad Gemini side in the other hand was tired of being an 18 year old incel so it was telling me "this is you best opportunity, why let it go to waste?"

till then it was the pity that I had for her that made me fall in love with her, but I never told her this and she probably knew either way. but I wonder if this would actually hurt a woman's ego, knowing that the man she's with is with her out of pity and not desire

I have a genetic condition which shortens my lifespan. Males with my condition burn in the 90s are expected to live 37-45 years. While currently, my health is actually 10% above normal, the clock is ticking as I'm already 26. I feel like it's selfish for me to want a wife and kids when I know I won't be around for the foreseeable future, even if I found someone now. I'd be proceeding, knowing she and the child won't have me around for long, which I consider selfish of me. But I can't help but wonder if maybe a woman can fully understand and accept this. I currently doubt it, since we always think things will be okay, even when they really aren't. Is my desire for love misplaced selfishness?