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I have been having problems like mental hospital visits at random where I would have to stay at the hospital for like 7-14 days sometimes 30 days or even 2 years this is not a normal hospital it’s like a hospital with a fullsize bed and 3 meals served a day…!

they’d take away all your clothes and give you a scrub outfit and take away your cell phone and electronics items rarely can u keep it

fast forward now the visits have stoped but now they’ve started medication for a condition I don’t even think I have and so like there’s a monthly visit for a shot to the doctor and it seems unreasonable they said they’d like to continue treatment until the age of 70ish that’s like 12 shots a year times 40 years that’s like 480 shots

it just seems unreasonable at first phone just had my contact information but I accidentally gave them my mom’s information too , I have no idea how to convince her to ignore the doctor’s calls and to stop treatment

I feel harassed

I could always move out the treatment will stop but I’ll have to pay rent

what do I do

I'm 40, and recently broke up with my boyfriend (47) of 11 months. We had hundreds of days filled with highs, he is social, charming, has a lot of friends, loves going out, having fun. He was very sweet, romantic and caring during these times. There were red flags that I tried to rationalize- binge drinking multiple times a week, crippling debt from student loans and cc (>200K), no career motivation and health issues that started popping up (probably from drinking). We had 6-7 arguments over the last year, that I thought were heated but never out of control (and always under the influence of alcohol). The next day we'd both apologize and move on. I realized he'd get overwhelmed then, and sometimes even at the smallest disagreement or when I needed to vent (when both were sober). I showed concern about his health and debt and the stupid fights that happened while drinking. Asked him to cut back, but he was super defensive and in denial. Fast forward to the new year, we were going to move in together and he was going to propose. He suddenly started acting disinterested and cold and last week suddenly declares he doesn't want to move in together. I'm taken aback and ask why, and he brings up the fights and that it's too frequent. I ask if he's overwhelmed with all his issues, and he admits he is, but keeps blaming me for the fights. I say I'll work on being more understanding and only bring up stuff while we're both sober and in a calm way, but I can't change the past, only do better in the future. He's reluctant to accept my words and I finally ask in frustration if he wants to break up. He says he doesn't know what wants, but needs time on his own to think. Over the next 3 weeks, I don't hear from him and he ignores my call and texts, forcing me to text and email him an official breakup note. Rationally, I know he's not good for me in his current state, but my heart still loves him. I want to know if a man like this can change. Does he deserve a second chance?