Was I wrong? Or did I made the right move?

[Anonymous]

to make a long story short, this girl and i were part of a friend group but from the start of her coming into this group, it has ended with her somehow sabotaging my friendships with people in this friend group and spreading insane rumors about me around campus. I've since stepped away from this friend group as, from what i was seeing, they was not defending me with all the crazy stuff she would say about me and a person who i've known for 5 years prior to meeting this other girl would tell me that the reason why nobody wanted to say anything to try to ease the situation between us two was because "it has nothing to do with them" and that they aren't on anybody's sides which was something i found hard to believe. Anyway, fast forward towards a couple more months of hearing all these rumors this girl was spreading about me, i went to my university's student conduct office and told them everything, listing the different things i would hear her say and they things she would do when she saw me in public and they decided it was best to initiate a mutual no contact directive between me and this girl to try to give her the hint that I wanted to be left alone by her. did i take it too far with the directive?

[SueShe]

I don't think you took it too far. Actually you had either the choice of remaining silent until the things would cool down on their own. Usually, if someone spreads news about somebody else, if the facts are not sustained, those bad news will eventually disappear altogether.

The other way is to do what you did in the hope to ensure that she understands that you will not let yourself be stepped all over. The only problem I see is that because you acted on her, she will continue spreading rumors about you and it will take much longer to quiet down.

[Asker]

she had been spreading rumors about me for months prior to me even initiating this no contact order and i kept quiet the WHOLE TIME

[Asker]

i feel like if i didn’t report it, she would continue and since i’ve initiated the directive, i have not heard a single thing. the only issue is that she tries to emotionally intimidate me on public campus ground (ex: when a friend and i were sitting in the dinner area, she walked up and behind my friend and started talking about wanting to fight someone and the whole time she was saying this she was staring right at me)

[SueShe]

That was to be expected. Be the more intelligent one and don't lower yourself to her level. You can do it even if it is hard on you. Good luck.

[BadApple69]

I believe you did the right thing.