I went on a breakfast date with a guy I was slowly getting to know. It took him a week or two to ask for my number and ask me out. The date was fine. He was a gentleman. I like him but I just felt he may have been moving fast as far as touching went. I got that there would some touching but not to that extent. It wasn’t disrespectful or anything, I just wasn’t ready to move to that point of intimacy. After breakfast, he took me to the guitar center and we played around with the piano and guitar. In between that he began to grab me and sit me on his lap, feel on my waist and he kept looking me in my eyes. Complimenting my physical features from my face down to my outfit but it felt really shallow but granted, he isn’t just about looks but he was only about that in that moment. He even had admitted to wanting to kiss me in that moment but he knew it was too soon but a part of me feels maybe I shouldn’t have let him go that far. Maybe his love language, which he says is touch, moves a bit too fast for me.
You are not obligated to do anything if you’re not ready. If all his touching is making you uncomfortable, speak up and let him know. If he doesn’t listen or says something along the lines of “It’s no big deal,” he’s not the one.
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No, but sounds like you need to put your boundaries up.
You need to say no if you're not comfortable.
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I actually wouldn’t mind the compliments, if they aren’t too cringey, but I definitely wouldn’t like a guy manhandling me and setting me on his lap. Especially on a first date! I’ve had guy friends do that in school, I would laugh it off, because they are friends that I know well, but I would tell them not to do that!
Communication is key in a relationship. You need to tell him what you are comfortable with otherwise he is just going keep pushing for more and you will end up breaking up. A guy who is truly interested in you will stay within the dating boundaries you set. Good luck!!
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