Advice for adult children?

[Anonymous]

30 F, living at home with my 62 yr old parents. My mother works part time teaching school children, and my father was recently in a work accident, becoming disabled (spinal injury) We are unable to afford care giver full time, as I am on disability myself for my chronic illnesses, I can hardly leave be some days due to the extensive pain I experience (Lupus, Severe Endometriosis, and Epilepsy) Since I am home and need monitoring myself, I have had to be the one to look after my dad.
He was able to walk minimal, but used to walk to the kitchen with his walker, he has trouble feeling his feet due to the spinal nerve damage, but he was still mobile, independent, did things for himself.

Fast forward a month, and he is literally sitting all day doing nothing. No more trying to move. His feet have swollen so badly as he sits in one place all day. He was too lazy to even TRY to get up, so he has urinated on the sofa, despite him wearing diapers, he will not get up to change them. He gets up at NIGHT by himself, goes into the kitchen to sneak food (junk food) and he refuses to eat any healthy food I make my family and I, due it not being what HE wants at that given time.
After working all day, he made my mum drive 45 min to pickup his fav candy, manipulating her to believe it was his last day and he could feel he is dying. When in reality he just wanted the sweets. :(

He ignores everyones help, and constantly is playing the "poor me, everyone do everything for me" card now, only during the day whilst we are all awake. He has got diapers sores from sitting in wet diapers, he smells terrible bec he chooses not to shower, or even try! He refuses to TRY, to move, walk, etc. like he used to do a month ago. His condition didn't change in a month, and dr is confused WHY NOW he can't do anything for himself.
I have no choice but to find a job to help support my family, as my mums income isn't enough alone.

How can I help my dad actually choose to take care of himself again?

[Jkgordon]

For a female thsts not too bad but still ya gotta paddle your own canoe. You will be an old maid soon lol

[Asker]

I don't understand your comment. Can you elaborate what you are insinuating? What isn't "too bad?"

I'm looking for answers how to help my disabled dad take care of himself, as he once did before.

[Jkgordon]

He needs to be in a home rehab where he is cared for PROPERLY. Too bad meaning you are grown still living at home. Most adults have their parents live with THEM. Usually people still living at home use that as an excuse. Go to hospital get a social worker tell them your concerns and tell them you have a life of your own. You are not obligated to take care of your parent 24/7. He needs professional care. It’s different if he’s up in age and come live with you like my grandma was 101 was living with my aunt & husband instead in the rural area by herself.

[Asker]

The house is in my name, and legally it has been transferred to me so it IS my home technically. I own it. It's a mansion, on a large property which has been passed down through generations since the late 1800s.

However living situation isn't the issue, my parents aren't well and I'm not ashamed to live with them or have them live with me under a single roof. I don't know why you don't understand living with parents / parents living with you, is literally the same thing, lol.

I'm the 6th generation in that family home. I don't see why that's a "too bad" situation, because i want to help and care for my family, i guess that speaks more to who you are.
Anyways i don't see why you posted an opinion that was completely irrelevant to my question. what a waste of time.