Guys, did my ex unfollow me out of jealousy?

[Anonymous]

My ex and I had been following each other on Spotify for months after breaking up. He had even been in another relationship with another girl and even though we were no longer in contact I noticed that we still followed each other. He had even saved a song I had sent him 'what you won't do for love' and still had it in one of his playlists last time I checked. He had also another song that had many references to me that were way too specific. Christmas 2023 came and we were still following each other FAST forward to February 2024 and he unfollowed me. In December of 2023 I started following my cousin and his profile pic is him taking a selfie. And I have just realized my ex has unfollowed me. So my question is, is it possible my ex thought I had moved on (thinking I'm with my cousin) and unfollowed me? We hadn't been together for months and yet still followed each other but now that my cousin follows me, he unfollows?

[Oliverlogan263]

Girl that does seem suspicious! Guys can be so possessive even after they break up with you.

He was probably checking your Spotify all the time to see if you were listening to any sad songs or lyrics about him. But when he saw your cousin following you, it must have set him off.

Why else would he suddenly unfollow right after that? He probably got jealous thinking you moved on with another guy. Even if you've been broken up for awhile, some guys still feel like they own you or something.

I bet it drove him crazy not knowing what was going on between you two. So unfollowing was his way to distance himself before he reached out or did something dumb. Men are so messy with their emotions!

You're better off without all that insecure drama sis. His loss if he can't handle you living your life. Don't even give it another thought - he's an ex for a reason. You've got this girl!

[DoggyDude]

Based on males in general, I doubt he's even thinking that way. It was probably just him sorting out his account follows. Removing ones he felt he no longer required. He may not have even thought about you.

[Asker]

He had made me a Playlist and even added me to it. When I left the Playlist, he deleted it soon after but we still followed each other. I was always assumed he would have unfollowed me soon after, you know?

[DoggyDude]

Forgive me, but my advice here is to stop seeing life through the lens of technology (e. g. peoples follows, likes or internet based rating systems). Those things mean very little in the long run, and aren't instructive regarding the persons reasonings (though peoples writings here and in other places online can help understand people, it's just the likes and follows that aren't overly helpful). People online tend to be a specific version of themselves tailored to the format of communication, and many people come online to escape from some real life shortcoming or generally find real life to be difficult (and yet others are addicted to the seemingly elevated attention gained). My point there is, even if you can figure out his reasons those reasons are likely entriely arbitary and he's probably put little to no thought into it. If he does miss you or dislikely, its unlikely he's expressing either through likes, dislikes or follows.

People "like" for SO many reasons and can "Follow" sometimes just because it seemed convinent or polite at the time and then later just decide to stop for equally unthought out reasons.

That your so focused on analysing why he's unfollowed you says a lot about how your thinking about him though, and what you appear to be really trying to fathom is "what is HE thinking, how does he see me now?", which you will need to find by getting to know him again through conversation and mutual friends.

Hopefuly that didn't come across conceited or offensive. Just its a common mistake to overly read into too little evidence when the important thing to do is ask people why.