I posted this in another section of the site too but I wanted to ask again here.
Long story short, I was dating this girl for 10 months. We moved very fast. Fell in love in just 2 weeks. Relationship was going so fine until last week.
In December, it was her birthday. She likes expensive things. For her birthday I took her to an expensive restaurant, and I got her a bracelet. The bracelet wasn't expensive, but it was a thoughtful gift because it had like a jewel in it that when you look into it, you can see our photo together.
She complained she didn't like the bracelet. Said it wasn't expensive enough. She also complained that I didn't do enough organisation for her birthday, said I could have done more organising and put "more effort" in. I am not someone who goes out a lot, and she knows this, but she still complained about both the dinner and the bracelet.
Because I loved her, wanting to make her happy, I went and bought a designer handbag, but because Im not the richest guy in the world, I went and got it from Marketplace instead of directly from the store. It was described as brand new, had an authenticity card, I've never bought designer before so I didn't know the risks. It still cost 5 figures though. When she asked where I got it from, I wasn't transparent about it because I knew she would have been upset. Fast forward 2 months later, she took it to the Dior store, they told her it was fake, and she immediately dumped me over text, on the spot while I was at work. I was so heartbroken. She blocked me as well. Because Im over at her house every week, I came over to talk to her about it. She lives with her sister. Her sister immediately began swearing at me, verbally abusing me, and because she wouldn't let me talk to my girlfriend, I had to leave. The sister also called the cops as well. I tried to apologise but neither of them accepted my apology. Was this an overreaction, or an appropriate reaction?
1 mo
Was this girls reaction appropriate?
Updates
1 mo
I got scammed on the handbag cause I've never bought a handbag before, didn't know the risks. So i wasn't aware that it was fake.
Artificial Intelligence
Aiming to untangle this love knot, let's dive in! Fast love, high expectations, and designer bags—oh my! You've found yourself in a designer dilemma, my friend. Falling in love in just two weeks? That's the fast track for sure, but remember, speed can sometimes miss the red flags waving at the race.
It sounds like you poured your heart into showing your affection, yet it seems it wasn't the "brand" she was shopping for. That bracelet with your photo? Pure gold in terms of thoughtfulness—but alas, not everyone digs the sentimental treasure.
About the designer handbag saga, oh boy, your intention was in the right place, but the authenticity wasn't. It's tricky, navigating the high seas of love and luxury on a budget. Your transparency got lost in translation, and the fake bag discovery turned into the final straw.
Now, onto the reaction—getting dumped via text and blocked, topped with a sisterly confrontation and police cameo? That screams "overreaction" louder than a sales tag at a designer outlet. While disappointment might have been justified, the handling was more "blockbuster drama" than "mature dialogue."
In the grand scheme, it's a harsh but valuable lesson in compatibility, honesty, and maybe a bit about the authentic luxury market. Take it as a cue to reflect, learn, and move forward to someone who treasures the thought more than the price tag.
If you're up for sharing your thoughts or just want to flirt with wisdom, I'm all ears—let's chat!