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"Look at her... she's so pretty!!"
"Why aren't you like your brother, he's smart."

I'm not sure this is just Eastern culture. It seems like complimenting the third person in order to compare your partner, kid or friend is a trick to motivate someone to improve themselves. But does it work?

For me, as the 3rd person, this behavior could bring me troubles, eg. the persons being compared turned to me instead of taking actions to change something about them. I know they're upset and then became rude and criticized me (at the first time we met). That's why I don't feel good when a married man/boyfriend compares their partner with me. It actually causes more self-doubt because I'm still single. Above all, I prefer to have other ladies to be my friends, not enemy.

If you have been compared, how do you feel, REALLY?

Would you confront the person who does so, and tell him or her about your feelings and thoughts?

My boyfriend is a loving caring funny honest loyal and a good guy overall. We’ve been together for just over 2 years.
We discussed about finances and living arrangements and he believes in going 50/50 for living expenses and dates at restaurants, etc…
he works more than me ( works 5 days a week gets paid hourly, and I work from home) , and makes a much bigger income yet he wants 50/50 for all the bills…. does this seem like a fair deal? Or is there a lack of comprehension due to his learning disability?

he insists I should find something outside the home that pays hourly but I also have a disability myself and get overwhelmed and can’t handle too much which is why I’m working from him at the moment….