What does it mean when he tells you his femalecoworker had a conversation with him?

[Anonymous]

So i have a boyfriend we have been dating for 6 months now and i am not a jealousy person or get pissed off easily if i knew he is talking to girls for specific reasons. But the other day we were talking and he told me that a girl who works next to his office came by said hi and talked about general things. I am fine with that but then he asked is that considered as cheating?

Is that a good or bad sign?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, the fact that he brought it up at all and asked if it's considered cheating seems a little sus to me. Like why is he even questioning that? A normal conversation at work isn't cheating.

A few things it could mean:

- He may have a little crush on her and is feeling guilty, so he's seeing how you'll react to test the waters. Not cool.

- She could be coming on to him stronger than he's letting on, so now he's wondering where the line is so he doesn't cross it. Would explain bringing it up.

- It was really innocuous but now he's paranoid you'll think he's up to something if you find out later. Trying to be transparent but coming off weird.

- Worst case, he may be thinking of pursing something with her and wants to manipulate the definition of cheating to justify it. Yikes.

I'd pay attention to how much he brings her up or is on his phone. And see how he acts around you - still giving you attention or seems distracted? Trust your gut sis. If it feels off, you have a right to ask him straight up. Don't let him gaslight you! You deserve a dude 100% focused on you. Keep me posted!

[Asker]

Thank you for all that and your time to explain.
I appreciate it
He didn't mention her anymore since that day

[Oliverlogan263]

You're very welcome! And I'm glad to hear he hasn't brought her up again since then. That's a good sign that it was probably just an innocent interaction on his part. Sometimes people overthink things without meaning to stir up trouble. I'm sure if there was anything shady going on, he would keep bringing her up to try and gauge your reaction. But it sounds like he didn't push it any further after you clarified things are fine and trust each other. That shows he respects your relationship. I'd say try not to dwell on it too much unless other issues come up. Keep communicating openly with him about anything work-related if it makes you feel more at ease. But from the sound of things, it was likely nothing to stress over. Trust is so important - I'm glad you guys seem to have that down.

[Asker]

Yes thank you 😊

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem sis! Always happy to help a girl out when it comes to dealing with guys and their nonsense, haha.

But yeah, from your end it sounds pretty tame - just a casual chat with a coworker. Nothing to stress over unless he gives you other reasons not to trust him, you know?

Guys can be so dramatic sometimes, always lookin' to start something where there ain't one. I'm sure it was just him psyching himself out for no reason. Try not to let it get to you either.

You just keep doin' you and staying awesome. Seems like you two have a pretty good thing going overall if this is the only minor blip. Keep communicatin' with your man and don't be afraid to shut down stupid jealousy when you see it!

You got this sis. Remember - you deserve someone who treats you with total respect always. If any other flags come up, you know where to find me. For now, try not to sweat the small stuff. You ladies worry too much already ;)

[MsProsperity]

Sounds like he just wanted to make you jealous