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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 1 and a half years now
But 1 month ago we broke up because he got fed up with my trust issues and accusing him of cheating/flirting with other women
he's never cheated on me but my ex boyfriend did so i still have trust issues
But 2 weeks later, he called me and wanted to get back together again and I apologized to him
So we got back together

Anyway so I know his passwords to everything
His phone, tablet, laptop, email, etc
I went on his phone messages last night (I know its bad but I wanted to know if he was seeing other girls during breakup)
I didn't find anything (as in he didn't add any girls or went to see another girl)
But I did find something
- he messaged his best friend and he sent a photo of this girl and he said to him "im talking to this hot chick, gonna be my new girlfriend, easy bro😂"

I got pissed
And confronted my boyfriend
And he said "yeah I went on dating app to get my mind off you, was talking to girls on it, added them on instagram. I talked to her but she got weird and started asking me dumb questions so I blocked her. You can check my instagram block list. I dont care. And plus I saw you on it too so I got more pissed and talked to more girls. But i didn't go see them"
And he showed me his block list and he did block that girl
And i said "if u want her or other girls, why come back to me?"
Then he replied "isnt it obvious? I still have feelings for you and I felt weird talking to those other girls anyway"

I have a 9 year old from a previous relationship. We have been together for 3yrs. We live together. We knew each other for a yr before we got in a relationship. Over the past three years I've noticed the following. I do all the chores. Indoor & out. He has asthma so I offered to help outside more. Now I'm doing it all. Inside I care for the pets, my son & any other chores. When I have asked for help his answer was "I need a list." I made a list he never follows it. So I made a chore chart. My son, being nine is now helping more, but a majority is still all me. Now my boyfriend works & is a full time student. I also work full time but I'm about to start school. Still, when I ask for help I get playful no or ok. Later he gets upset about how he has so much HW work to do. So, I end up doing everything & not even ask for help. On another note we don't do date nights, we don't cuddle & I can't tell you the last time we were intimate. His mother is visiting right now & he's a whole different person! Asking what I want to do, doing dishes, spending time with my son. He's a good person. I still feel like its a bad relationship. Everytime I Express how I feel about our relationship he says he understands but also says I'm probably going through a phase or I'm just a little stressed & it will pass. It makes me feel belittled. Last month I saw a huge red flag. We talk about the future a lot. I mentioned that I may not want kids because it was so difficult being a single parent & if our relationship stays the way it is, that's how it would be. Me working, schooling & raising our kids alone while he does what he's been doing. He got a little mad and said "well when we have kids they won't act like this (indicating my son) & be 100% obedient & I'll be with you so it will be better." Alarms sounded in my mind. So my plan is stop doing all the chores for him for a yr. See how he reacts & if it's not solved leave at the end of next year.

We’ve been dating for about 6 months and everyday I’ve been feeling even more repulsed by the thought of him touching me, he has mannerisms as such like my step-dad and that’s just gross in itself - which clicked whilst in Amsterdam with him about a week back & we didn’t even hold hands in public I wanted to pretend as though we were friends and I felt bad..

He always says I think he’s weak which I didn’t at least not as much until he said it and now I’m beginning to think it..
I’m used to independent, strong and physically fit men who don’t let me walk all over them and I get a lot of these types approaching me on the daily, and physically the guy isn’t, he can’t dominate me and it just makes me cringe when he tries but at first I thought that didn’t matter.. don’t get me wrong he’s great in so many other ways of which I haven’t listed he’s just completely opposite to what I’m used to and now I’m beginning to feel as though its a bad thing

He makes me feel past it even tho I’m 22 partially cause he doesn’t compliment my style (I don’t mean saying things to compliment me btw) and it’s quite bad for my anxiety cause it puts us on opposite sides of the spectrum when we go out we look odd together and I’ve been trying to ignore it since being with him I’ve put on so much weight too

It’s difficult to end things with him cause he’s best friends with two of my flat mates and I’m worried he’ll start spilling things about our relationship and I’ll be isolated in my own home but I also don’t want to hurt him

Now summer is here I have a strong urge to do anything that will get me away from this situation, and I’m worried as to what I’ll do, I feel so alone & trapped in this relationship I don't know what to do anymore?