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Hello!

So there’s this guy who I’ve kind of been chatting with for about a week. He’s a friend of my friends older brother and the guy and I have known each other for a few months now. He’s done things such as call me feisty, ran back to a restaurant to get some leftovers I forgot when I didn’t want to get out of the car, complimented my outfits, noticed when my other friend and I accidentally wore matching boots, noticed when I was sitting alone and immediately came up to me and started talking to me, etc.. About a week ago, he asked if I wanted to hangout sometime so I gave him my Snapchat and we talked on there for a bit, but last time I texted him (he started the conversation), he responded with a single word for an answer. Then I sent him a video of a dog who has wormed its way between my legs (I work at a doggy daycare place) and he opened it but didn’t say anything in return. Before, I thought he liked me but now I’m not so sure if he does or if he’s just being nice. It’s important to know that he works night shifts and we were texting at night. Thoughts? Opinions?

For context, I'm 17F, and a Senior in high school. My bus gets there pretty early, about 5 minutes before the others do. A while back, I met a guy. Let's call him Ryan (17M). And once he arrives at school, he always comes and sits down next to me on the stairs. For the last two or so months, he's been getting really close to me. And I don't know if he's leading me on, or whether or not he likes me. So, I'm going to list 3-4 things, and hopefully, I can get some advice on that.

• 1: At an assembly a few weeks ago, he was just sitting there, looking into my eyes, not saying anything. And then one of my friends suggests he should sit and turn around so he could see, and he came up and sat next to me, and was leaning into me the entire assembly, showing me stuff on his phone.
• 2: A week + 1/2 ago, I carried a baggy red overcoat to school, and I had set it down on the stairs. We talked normally, and when we went to get up, he grabbed it, took off his hoodie, and put it on. I wore his, and he wore mine, for the day. He returned my overcoat back to me but didn't want to take his hoodie back, so I still have it.
• 3: About 2 days ago, he took my hand and was comparing his hand's size to mine. (mine is significantly smaller.) He turned my wrist over, and took the bracelet that I was wearing, off. Then again, he wore it for the whole day and then gave it back.
• 4: Yesterday, we were sitting, and he asked to play the game I was playing. I handed him my phone, and he was just playing. I was talking with someone, and was just letting him mindlessly play. He poked my side, told me it had turned off, and went to hand me the phone. Since I was busy I just told him the code. (a mistake I know.) My other friend left, and I looked over and he was just mindlessly scrolling through my phone, going through my photos and apps. (I had a few photos of him in my phone, which he smiled at.)

And here we are. Advice?

I don’t think he does based off something that happened today, but I definitely have strong feelings for him.

This is a long story so buckle in.

I’ve been friends with this guy who’s almost 10 years older than me since I was 19. He went to back to college, and that’s how we met. We’ve always just been friends and never crossed any lines with each other and are part of the same group. He graduated 3 years ago and moved back to our hometown (turned out we’re from the same city), but we’ve stayed in touch and I see him almost every time I visit.

Last year we were hanging out and the topic eventually went to dating (not each other just in general). I described my perfect guy and he said something like, “oh like how we do?” And that’s the moment the light bulb clicked in my head. Ever since then I’ve been developing feelings for him. I felt like he wasn’t returning my feelings, so I backed off to try and readjust my emotions.

A couple months ago, he called me out the blue and we’ve been texting/calling/watching shows through zoom together practically every day the last few weeks. My feelings for him are back and are definitely getting stronger. I’m not sure how he feels. It’s like he’s hot and he’s cold, he’s definitely sending mixed signals. He’s asked me what my plans for grad school are, wanted to know if I’d move out of state to go to the same school as him, stays on the phone with me while I share my location while in traffic, etc. In a show we watched recently, they were talking about date ideas and he kept telling me he wanted to take me to those places, so I started to feel like he might feel the same as me. Today I finally had enough of wondering and texted him that I’m wanting his attention more and more, and he deflected it and made a joke.

When we met 8 years ago, I was just a kid and he was pushing 30. I’m worried he still thinks of me as a kid and doesn’t see me as the woman I’ve grown into.

Is he just a good friend? Does he want more? What do I do?