What's the matter with my male coworker?

[Bpet22]

I'm 26, he is 37. He has never married, never had a long term relationship. I had one and it turned out that this guy was my third cousin. Still shocked and confused, and hurt... we were together for 7 years.

Anyways... my coworker and I have become close and he is basically doing this:

- started calling me everyday and we used to talk for hours until last week

- has started touching me both accidentally and intentionally a lot (hugging, shoulder massaging, little hand touching and lingering,... etc)

- he has pet names for me including a one he used for his ex

- he is flirting with me a lot...

- he doesn't want to hear if I start talking about my third cousin

- he confided in me (he was a manager previously) so I got to know a lot of an inside information

- he asked me out many times, but never really insisted to a specific time and date so I decided that he is toying with me and it was a joke

- he seems to have mentioned me to his friends, cause once a friend of his called and he said "u cannot come by, cause I'm taking (my name) home"... I was shocked cause he mentioned me so freely and his friend didn't ask "who is she?"

- he is talking about his private life a lot and is also talking to his friends on speaker while in my presence

- he asked me if i have found a boyfriend many times

Also:

- he sometimes is sexually objecting me and it hurts my feelings (made comments about my body being juicy, and about my ass and other body parts being "hot")

- he says things like "I should make you a baby", I will make you my wife, we should make love...

- I get the feeling like he is playing mind games with me sometimes... he is playing hot and cold

- he has become different two weeks ago when he had a mysterious trip and when he returned he said that he has slept with a Ukrainian refugee lady... I'm not sure why he did tell me this, but it hurt me

I'm not sure what's going on between us, but I'm super confused...

[SueShe]

This would be the typical behavior of a man in his mid-life crisis. He needs to prove to himself that he still has whatever it is to try to get a younger girl. He is not very consistent and makes erratic comments in an attempt to get your attention. Also, he is complimenting you, hoping that you will fall for his cheap tricks.

The fact that he has become tactile with you is because you let him go that far with words. It gave him the motivation to move ahead and become very tactile with you. The fact that you did not object to him touching you gave him he necessary courage to attempt to talk to you about a future life.

Seeing that he may not be as successful with you, he tried it with jealousy by confessing that he had an affair with someone else. Apparently, this had an effect on you since it hurt you. The fact that it hurt you signifies that you are receptive to his compliments and him touching you.

Don't fall for this cheap trap. You have your dignity and you should keep it.

[Bpet22]

I saw him today... and he continued with his touching... even reached to undo my bra jokingly. I somehow feel that I'm falling for him, which I believe isn't the best thing to do, but I cannot control my feelings. Everyone around us is making hints about us getting together and are teasing us about "when is the wedding?".
Tbh he seems to be a nice guy apart of that, he is treating everyone else with respect except me... he is different with me. Once he is super kind and warm towards me, and later he makes silly sexual jokes and makes me wonder about his real intentions. I somehow refuse to believe that he wants to do me any harm, to make fun of me, but I don't know what to believe.

[abc3643]

Get back with your third cousin! That's not the level of incest you have to worry about. Former First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt was married to President Franklin D. Roosevelt and they were 5th-cousins-once-removed.
And don't get me started about European royalty.

[abc3643]

Anyway the male coworker is sexually harassing you. So much so, he should be terminated. Take this up to HR. If you can, have your phone secretly record the things he says as evidence.

[Guy13]

He does not seem serious about one-one relationship with you.

[20yearsolder]

I think all this guy wants to do is get in your panties. He wants to have sex with you and if that would ever happen he'll probably be done with you. You would just be a conquest

[Anonymous]

Almost like he's toying with the idea of having a relationship with you but not following through

[In_Trance]

I don't think there's anything between you