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The question is inspired by recognition of "Black History Month", and specifically the meaning of that relates to "African Americans".

Would you [anyone] find it of value to to trace your heritage back to countries and regions? Is that a tool that provides a greater sense of self and identity? I've done that to some extent. The issue I perceive is the lost connection to the past for so many African americans and maybe that is true of other peoples as well. Thus a corrective measure, and possibly one that could be provided... free of charge..., to those whom no fault of their own, had their identities damaged or lost over history. That is one aspect of "reparations", restoration of identity, now possible, by technology.

As I think about how people identify their nationality, very often it's to some large social "national" or "regional" grouping, which forms unique cultural behaviors... usually in accent, language, food preferences, attire, movement/dance, etc.. These are all positives of cultures that people appreciate, feels good, and maybe even provides health!

For example, I've met these people in my life when I ask about them:

"I'm haitian and chinese!".. eventhough he's American.

I met an AA woman, she was very German, but American!

I met a young man in a shop, dark color, with a mask... he's Haitian... I couldn't discern the accent over the mask. He quickly reciprocated my french in even better French!

Nationality, culture adds depth and connection. With all of it comes assumptions, but further interest.

Nobody says North American, few say South American, African, or Asia. Very general associations.

Colors when used... are basic, very shallow. I don't know anyone when asked to make a presentation announces, "Hi, I'm black and yellow... I'm a bee!" It makes no sense, but these are used in media, govt forms... as media is shallow.

I've had this question from multiple females in ailing relationships recently. Seems an expectation of men that no matter the difficulty, they will keep fighting and come back for the woman... undying love.

... and so I ask about staying power...

Imagine your beautiful mate is everything you wanted and easy, except one thing. Each day, they prick you with a small needle, not worse than a bee sting. It's ridiculous, but it's their way out outletting internal grief and you accepted their cultural behavior because they are perfect in every other way.

How many days of that can you endure.

This is the basis in some cultures, of torture...

Obviously there's a point to the analogy. Relationships have some pain which we need to endure, hopefully a lot more good and you learn to work together effectively to make each others lives better, more fun, more joyful, fulfill needs of each.

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Love seems a bit alchemy doesn't it, and maybe a notch fickle. It requires great communication, patience, giving, receiving, accepting. It's alchemy cooking...