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Simple question right? I will concede that falling in love with someone isn't 100% a choice, its a combination of attraction, and chemical responses. But continuing to love someone i believe is a choice.

Let me explain why i believe that.

Love needs to be nurtured. To maintain the relationship, you can't just expect the "Spark" to be there. Both sides need to make effort. Both sides need to do the things that maintain connection.

For example, Every morning when i wake up, i wake a half our prior to actually needing to get up so i can get extra cuddle time with my wife. When i come home from lunch i hug her, and tell her how much i miss her. When i come home at the end of the day i do the same, and then we cook together.. the important term here is Together. Hell even my furniture choices have centered around making sure that even when we are just watching a show together it means cuddle time. Additionally i took my grandfathers advice seriously, which was "Never stop dating your wife" So i make sure to do things like date nights, and spontaneous gifts, And by gifts, i mean things she's been wanting, to things as simple as chocolate. I tell her she's beautiful every day, and i tell her how much i love her every day. And this isn't one way, My wife does similar stuff for me.

Bottom line, if i chose to stop doing all of that, my wife would first think that there was something wrong, Then she would think that i was angry with her, and finally she would think that i dont love her. It would essentially kill the marriage.

Love, Marriage, And everything in between takes effort, Marriage is hard work, Its remembering to do the little things. Its making sure above all else that you have open lines of communication.

A lot of people fail to comprehend that, and i believe this is the reason for the horrific divorce rate.

See the following poem. it explains it quite well
https://hellopoetry.com/poem/1959983/love-needs-nurture/

I have dressed nice had good hygiene smelt good my whole life women and girls have either avoided me or bullied me I have never had a friend that’s a girl in my life even though I am always respectful towards them even my family members that are women hate me and my neighbours that are women avoid me I rate myself a 2-3 facially and a few times I’ve had girls that have been dared to say hello to me and hug me, I notice when I go out even when I got my perfume on and a very nice outfit girls and women speed walk away from me and when there’s a group of them they whisper and giggle or they give me a discgusted look, recently I been into trouble with the police just because my female cousin got her male friends to try and gang up on me and bully me because I was ugly and then it backfired on them not saying what exactly happened but it sure gave them stitches then my female cousin called the police and
told them that I was taking inappropriate photos of people