Am I being blown off or is it bad timing?

[Anonymous]

I matched with a guy on a dating app a few weeks ago. We've talked every night for a long time, we even talked on the phone a few times for hours. He travels for work so we couldn't physically go on a first date for a little while. We have a freaky amount of things in common and want the same things in life. Our first date was going so great until I started to feel really sick. I excused myself to go to the bathroom to try and calm my symptoms but nothing helped so I had to tell him. He was so sweet, tried to be helpful, and let me sorta ride it out. We kept talking on the way home and he said he likes that we can talk for hours and not run out of things to talk about. When we said goodbye he gave me a big hug and when I said we should absolutely get together again soon, he replied with "yeah, yeah!" I made sure to text him later that night and say I had a great time, apologized for my illness again but that I was interested in continuing getting to know him. He replied with "yes I had a great time too! I probably can't get together before T-giving, but we can keep in touch through the holiday."

Am I being blown off, or is going on a date right before Thanksgiving just the worst timing ever?

Updates

6 mo

Fun update everyone: he's ignored the last 2 texts-so I am being blown off

[HawkPerception]

From everything you've mentioned, it doesn't sound like you have anything to worry about. But it does seem like you should communicate about his intentions or just be transparent with yours. I don't know about him, but if a girl really wanted to see me, I'd want her to say something along the lines of...

"Hey, I just want to let you know I really loved your company and talking with you is a breath of fresh air. I'd love to see you again soon. Just want to make sure we're on the same page, because I'm feeling a little insecure about your own thoughts. Don't leave me hanging lol!"

[HollyK21]

My goodness it’s like you’re going through all the phases of self doubt, embarrassment and insecurity over something you couldn’t control. Getting sick happens and if you’re with a guy who’d make you feel like the grossest thing on earth and blow you off for that then you should really reevaluate your choice in men. Give yourself a break. In any case yes, trying to arrange a date right before a major holiday can definitely be bad timing. I wouldn’t say he’s blowing you off because there was never a plan in place, just you panicking over your human experience and terrified it cost you your shot with him. Which it absolutely shouldn’t if he’s a good man and well-intended by the way.

[HollyK21]

You’re not being blown off if there aren’t plans. Ghosted, yes.

[beenherebefore]

As you said he travels for work so I think you should be patient.

[Staximus]

Were you actually ill or did you just drink too much?

[Asker]

actually ill. it ended up being a bad anemic episode

[Staximus]

You need to eat red meat and spinach everyday