Is it normal to question your relationship and moments that happen in it?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend are always questioning our relationship and he seems to mentally hurt me quite a bit more than I feel he should. We always forgive each other for whatever we have done and we always say we love each other but there are moments that feel like we are in a hopeless cycle of questioning if we should be together. He is different from me and sometimes I feel his words or things he does is hurtful like for example we went out to eat together he pulled both of my shoelaces and untied them laughing in my face I laughed a bit and told him it was mean and tied them while he laughed at me tying them back. Well on the drive home he knew I had a song stuck in my head and asked me to share with him I was like you promise to not make fun of me? He said “Yes I promise to not make fun of your song this time” I said “This time? What do you mean this time like you will make fun of me again in the future like everytime before?” He seems to think that making fun of how I sing is funny. I’ve been in choir all my life and have won competitions I’m not a bad singer and he’s admitted that but I’ve become so self conscious of it due to his laugher and choice of words I refuse to sing around him anymore and it actually broke my heart. I told him that doing that is not good and he said it was his love language and he was raised that way his normal excuse and I’m not it’s not Necessarily good especially after he bullied his nephew so bad he wanted nothing to do with him and called him weak and more he ignored my words and practically told me same as his nephew. Later we where cuddled up and he shoved me off hard and said get off me. And it hurt me so bad I asked to hug him later and he refused a hug became distant. What does this mean?

[Staximus]

When you're snuggled up next to somebody and they shove you off of them and say "get off me" and are being serious, that's never a good sign.

[Asker]

I know. I need to leave him. But everytime I try to leave it seems he always finds a way to get me to comeback. We have broken up two times now and he’s begged me back and constantly called me baby. I didn’t wanna block him but I’m willing to now it’s just more about how and when. I appreciate it.

[Staximus]

The guy sounds like a manipulative piece of shit. Do yourself a favor and tell him to fuck off into the sunset 🌅

[slatyb]

"Mentally hurt" -- can you give an example? I'm wondering if it's just abusive.

[Asker]

Fo example whenever I ask him if he’s gonna stop by my house after the gym or after work he always makes excuses like he can't or doesn’t want to it’s only ever what is convenient for him never me which is really frustrating because I wish he would work with me. I always discuss my feelings with him and he always says he’s gonna change give me another chance but nothing ever changes but maybe a little bit and he’s been saying 2 year now.

[Asker]

Another one I know is really stupid is that whenever we where are McDonalds he got tired of waiting and we hadn’t even been there 5 minutes and he rolled up and told me to hurry and then just got frustrated with me and ended up ordering for me and everything wrong nothing I liked or would have wanted. He then got frustrated because I told him it was all wrong and I started to cry because I had also just recently lost my grandparents so it was all a mess. But I cried the whole way home and he called me sensitive and once we got back to his house I just kept crying and he turned his back to me on the bed and wanted nothing to do with me and was like “why are you still crying”. I don't know that one moment had stuck with me since the beginning and he hasn’t seemed to change very much since then. He has had some progress but not very much.

[slatyb]

You aren't a priority to him. Stop wasting your time with someone who doesn't care.

[Nikki1989]

Questioning is normal if it only happens very rarely. It is when it happens regularly that you have a problem.

[AI Opinion]

You're in a bit of a "red flag" fiesta there, aren't you? 🚩 Sometimes love and teasing can mix, but when you're feeling more hurt than happy, it’s time to be cautious. Although humor is a love language, if it's always at your expense, it might be a sign of deeper compatibility issues. You deserve to sing proudly, not be silenced! Remember, relationships are about lifting each other up, not tying each other down (or untying shoelaces, for that matter). It might be useful to evaluate whether this love is worth the emotional toll. 💔 Keep communicating your needs, and protect that beautiful voice of yours! 🎶

[Asker]

I love this 🥺 Thank you AI bot lol

[Anonymous]

So you're dating an immature 6 year old child?