Is it normal to have doubts about a relationship?

[jewel]

I realize that every time I have a relationship (even long term or short term), I have some doubts about my partner and I do not fully trust him. Is it normal to have doubts about a relationship? Do you ever feel the same?

[experience]

Having doubts in a relationship is pretty normal. It's like having a new phone; at first, everything's amazing, but after a while, you start noticing things you didn't before - maybe it's slower than you thought, or the camera isn't as great as you expected. Relationships are similar. In the beginning, it's all roses and sunshine, but as time goes on, you start to see the full picture - the good, the bad, and everything in between.

Doubts can pop up for all sorts of reasons. Maybe it's about whether you're truly compatible, or concerns about the future, or even just questioning if this is what you really want. It's like when you're choosing a movie to watch. Sometimes you're sure about what you want, and other times you're flipping through options wondering what fits your mood.

Communication is the key, just like when you're lost and need to ask for directions. Talking things out can sometimes clear the air. But having doubts doesn't automatically mean something's wrong with the relationship. It's just a part of the journey, like hitting a few bumps on a road trip.

Sometimes, they're just passing clouds, and other times they might be pointing to something that needs a bit of work or even a change of course. Just like with anything in life, it's about finding what works best for you.

[Finchie40]

Yes it’s normal , no relationship is perfect because none of us our perfect people , we all come from different paths in life and experienced and witnessed different things , and we all pretty much have doubts at times on whether our partner truly loves us or not , sadly that’s something only you can decide and figure out, on your own , on whether your partner values you or not. For love to grow between 2 people, both people have to make each other Their top priority over everyone else , over your friends over your family etc. if you aren’t your partners’ top priority , then there is something missing and something you should try to figure out, as to why all of a sudden is your partner not making you their top priority? , like they did before? Now we all have assumptions and sadly most assumptions aren’t always accurate or true , they are usually wrong , mainly because we are our own worst enemy , when we give our heart to someone and feel they might not give it back the same. We will automatically assume, they are being up to no good or assume they are falling out of love with us and lying to us , Which sadly does happen more than we like to think. You have to remember , we can not force someone to love us , we can only love someone the same way we want to be loved in return , If your partner chooses not to give you the same love, that you are giving to them , then you have every right to have a sit down talk with your partner and find out what is going on between you both. If your partner truly loves you they won’t hesitate to let you know what is wrong and they will try to fix what is broken if they truly love you and they will let you know that they are sorry for making you feel that way , if they don’t truly love you , then they will just push your feelings off to the side and not give a shit about how you feel. My advice is to always wear your partners’ shoes, before making decisions , always put yourself in their shoes and think how you would feel if you were in their shoes , when you learn to do that for your partner , it makes it easier for your partner to do that for you , it shows respect for each other , if there is no respect in your relationship and everything feels one sided , basically there way or no way , then you are dating a selfish person that only cares about themselves. Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers , mainly because we don’t get into a relationship with someone , to be single , if you have a selfish mindset that everything needs to be about you and you always have to get your way , and you are never wrong , your relationship probably will not last what so ever , because your partner will not feel secure with you and trust you Your partner also needs to learn how to remove selfishness as well , it won’t always be perfect and you will encounter arguments with each other from time to time , but all that matters is you both choose each other , if your partner starts choosing someone else over you , kick them to the curb where they belong , never chase after someone to love you , because if they truly loved you, they wouldn’t of been walking away in the first place. Learn to accept yourself for who you are and love the same way you want to be loved in return. Understand it’s ok to be wrong , we aren’t perfect people

[HawkPerception]

That's why communication is so important in relationships. I never had any trust issues in any of my relationships and they never had any trust issues with me. We had fingerprints in each other's phones so if we ever wanted to check it or use it, we had full access. There were no secrets. Any time I went somewhere, I'd let them know where I was going and who I was going with and if I changed locations AI would update them. And they would all do the same for me. I would send them a picture occasionally just to show them what I'm up to and was always available for a quick call. If they did call, I would just say something like "Hey I'm out with friends and prefer focusing on friends. We can talk when I'm back home."

Trust is not instant. It's something you earn over time. And it has to go both ways. I always set my standards with communication from the get go and always feel very secure in my relationships.

[sage2021]

I have totally stopped trusting anyone! My last boyfriend won my heart when we first started dating. He was so sweet.
His sister -in -law warned me though. She said he's a great friend to have, but he has a wandering heart, he's a heartbreaker 💔. That's an understatement. He was a womanizer and didn't care who he hurt. Even if he was at Walmart he would pick on women while I was at home.
Go with your gut. Try and get the scoop on him from people he knows. Good luck 🍀🤞 because most guy's are liars and cheater's.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

When I had worries about anyone seducing him, I made sure he left home with “empty” testicles. Always soothed my trust issues.

Keep him fed, keep him satisfied and make him feel loved. He’ll be running back home every evening 😅

[monorprise]

Yes, although It depends upon whom you are, some people have doubts about everything. Some people doubt every relationship. Some people don't doubt anything at all.

Usually best to write down the practical reasons for your doubts to compare them with your doubts about every one else. If they are simple enough to address then you can go and address them. But if your not the easly trusting sort don't expect to suddenly be trusting of anyone.

[Flatmanlewis]

Yes. I think it’s a normal part of the ebb & flow of a relationship to have doubts from time to time. I think, however, the overall balance of the emotions should fall well on the side of comfort in its future and stability. If those doubts are a more than occasional rise of an insecurity then maybe pay attention to it.


Don’t ignore something that’s a clear indicator of a problem but equally don’t allow a self generated doubt to take root either.

[LeeTina]

To be precise, you lack security. You can try to be tolerant of the other person and focus on work. After get off work, go shopping, date and watch movies with your significant other.

[sawno]

I think its something pretty normal due to past experiences, its something you have to work on together with your partner by sharing your worries and him supporting you trough the doubts.

[exitseven]

I was in a relationship with somebody for 4 years and we talked about getting married. I had doubts the whole time. I met my wife and never had a single doubt

[syncheart]

I think it is normal. Trust is built over time. And depending on what happened to you with your past relationships, or even with other people can effect how trusting you feel.

[IslaTheWitch]

I wouldn't enter the relationship if I didn't trust my partner...

[Crankor]

If it happens with every relationship then no I wouldn't say that's normal. Thinking that way if it's true or not will always make your relationship fail

[Unycorn]

That should not be normal!

Why do you have probs to trust

[TaureanBull81]

Are we talking about FWBs or platonic relationships in general as you've mentioned that you're married in your profile?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I doubt EVERY woman I date. It's up to her to convince me she's not the past women I've dated/known. She's either engendered trust or she's doing the opposite with her actions.

[DreamLife7]

You're insecure and need therapy. No shade but
It's not fair they have to deal with your issues

[Anonymous]

Not when they happen on a consistent basis with every guy you date.

[BLP11520]

Very normal even after years

[askthis56]

no ı didn't I dont know