How are single people happy?

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unless you have tons of best friends, single life isn't better than married life. Nobody has your back. Nobody to hug you when you need it the most. Lack of physical affection. Doing everything alone. Nobody to listen to you after a terrible day at work. Nobody to help with the bills. Thats a very lonely life. Especially as it gets harder to make friends as you get older. Making friends isn't easy, especially a trustworthy one

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

Well this is the key to life  Society has rules because we are being programmed all the time So to keep our minds occupied our hearts occupied wide , all this other crap happens. We are led to believe that we need some one in life to make us happy. And for sure it is true But before you can get that someone and keep that some one  That someone has to be you  In order to love someone  To have a beautiful life with them you have to experience all if life. You have to experience the deepest depth and the highest highs I f love   You have to know who you are 100 % and you have to understand and know how to corole every thing about your self  If you dont know about love pain and control of you then you will never know how to love any one or how to deal with people when something goes wrong. People that are single most are single for a reason they dont know it but they are finding themselves understanding themselves and when you take the time to do this. Then you start to grow and you dont let anything affect you or bug you you have more important things to do  Now, people that are not happy, they will get caught up in the drama and they will stay in the drama. To be held down in the dark , you can't see in the dark You need to.
Find yourself so you can see the light and be a part of everything around you.   a part of it with no judgment with no drama , you have more important things to do to worry about with you If you find somebody that gets caught up in everybody else's crap You will find that person's not happy at all. You will try to bring you down to their level kind of even though it's not a level It's a choice  Nobody in this world can make you happy. Nobody only you can Because you are the only person in the inside of you. So you're the one that controls your happiness and you're sadness  Of course.
There's people that come into our lives that have no drama. And you start hanging out with them and doing things with them , and they open new doors on the inside of you , all the feelings in this big universe , every single feeling that there can be , it's already inside of you You just need to find the right person that opens up those doors to bring that feeling out of you for you , to feel it again And of course , when that happens , you think that person made you feel that , but they didn't just open the door for you Also , when that happens and that person opens the door for you fall in love with that person because they made you feel that way , but they didn't make you feel anything you made yourself feel that way So that's how single people are happy. They find themselves they become themselves and they understand that's why we're on this planet to find ourselves to understand the meaning of love Are you religious? Or are you spiritual two different things I would say if you're religious you're never gonna find it. You'll never be happy, but if you're spiritual. The true meaning of freedom and understanding not programmed is spiritual. Become one with self 1 with others, 1 with this universe. Oh, God. And understand love , and will it takes to understand it and become that's when you're gonna become happy

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I am a relationship kind of Guy , so I don’t care For being single whatsoever , mainly for The things you described. But I will stay single, if I don’t meet the right person. unfortunately these days , It seems harder to find someone that actually wants a committed relationship and to stay loyal , so the majority of people that are happy being single , are people that are selfish, that only really care about themselves , that don’t want to be tied down to anyone , they like the freedom of doing whatever they want , or hooking up with whoever they want when it’s convenient for them , or they just got out of a horrible relationship and realized they feel happier being away from their ex that was a POS to them. I was with my wife for over 20 years thinking her and I would make it until death did us part , but unfortunately bout marriage turned to shit when she decided to be selfish once our kids’ got older and decided to she no longer wanted to be committed to me , she was influenced by her toxic friends’ that divorced their husbands as well , and they all became selfish whores. So a lot of divorced men these days don’t want relationships because of how they were shit on by a girl they loved with all their heart , Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers and if you can’t remove selfishness for your partner , you are a selfish person that only cares about yourself. Love will never grow between 2 people that can’t remove selfishness for each other. So single people that claim they are happy being single are more than likely selfish people that have no dignity or respect for anyone but themselves. Now that I am single , I am craving to fall in love with a girl that wants the same things as me. But unfortunately I been meeting bad seeds over good ones

melssvdv · Accepted Answer

As a woman, I will let everyone know the truth why modern women say this (and it will make modern women mad for saying the embarrassing truth)... GET READY... SET... GO:

Because women are upset because no matter how feminist narrative tells how independent and strong they are, reality and history shows otherwise: that women - naturally - always relied on men more than the other way round, thanks to the natural, biological force and power men possess over women. Thus it makes them realize that, it turns out, that equality and feminism is nothing but a false promise. Thus is increases their anger and frustrations because of reality check.

Not to mention that we suffer menses and we have the biological clock that keeps ticking until we are useless and dry XD. A man can still make people when old.

Because of all that, they cope by saying the otherwise to appear as if they are just as capable as men (obviously not, if we are weaker, then there is no way we are as capable as men) because they hold so dearly to the feminist beliefs because it makes them feel good. This is called cognitive dissonance. Feminism caused all this.

There you go gentlemen. There is the truth why modern women say 'we are happy single' is because they are not. And trying to cope as if they are just as capable living alone as a man would. It is just a modern woman's resentfulness because of not being a man. Feminists feel defeated because biology is so biased against us and realizing that equality is just a fabricated sensational lie to make us miserable.

How do I know? I had experience with this until I got married with a wonderful husband. Ladies... if you cannot fight against nature... just give up and accept that we need men more than the other way round. It does not make us useless though. We are useful anyway if you keep your sanity. Believing in feminism will not make men suddenly biological weaker than us or make us stronger than them.

PEACE OUT!

melanieeeB · Accepted Answer

I was pretty happy as a single!
I could do whatever I want and whenever I wanted it. I traveled alone, I went out alone.
I was focused on me!
I have maybe 3 close friends and only talk to 1 regularly and the other 2 I see them maybe 1-3 times a year and it was okay. It was enough for me.
Now having to keep up with so many social life stuff, it's exhausting!
I was building my life, doing my hobbies (I don't have time for that anymore and I miss that) , taking care of family and yes I occasionally missed cuddling but it was okay and not really necessary.
I didn't even date or texted with anyone for good 3 years and it was just so damn peaceful haha
I really needed the time for me.

BobbieBoy666 · Answer

Single people can find happiness through a combination of freedom, strong social connections, personal growth, and a focus on individual goals and self-fulfillment. Many singles value the autonomy to make their own decisions, the time to focus on their career or hobbies, and the flexibility to be spontaneous, while also nurturing strong relationships with friends and family. This autonomy allows them to pursue personal growth, take advantage of unique opportunities, and direct their lives according to their own values and goals.

Freedom and autonomy
Independence: Singles have the freedom to make all their own choices, from what to eat to how to spend their money.
Flexibility: They can take advantage of opportunities that may be less available in a partnership, such as changing careers or traveling on a whim.
Personal time: Being single allows for more personal time to recharge, focus on hobbies, or simply relax.

Strong social connections
Friendships and family: Many happy single people prioritize and invest heavily in their relationships with friends and family.
Community: They may find happiness by building a strong support network and social circle.

Personal growth and self-fulfillment
Self-discovery: Singledom can be a period of intense personal growth, allowing people to learn more about themselves and who they are.
Focus on goals: Many single people are able to focus more on their professional or personal goals without needing to compromise with a partner.
Defying expectations: Happiness can come from defying societal stereotypes and living a life that is personally fulfilling, rather than conforming to conventional expectations.

Positive outlook and self-esteem
Optimism: Studies show that happy single people tend to be more optimistic.
Self-worth: They often have higher self-esteem and a strong sense of self-worth that is not dependent on being in a relationship.

Single people find happiness through a combination of personal freedom and independence, strong social connections, personal growth, and pursuing meaningful interests. They are often "single at heart" individuals who genuinely enjoy solitude and are fulfilled by a life not centered around a romantic partner.

Key Factors for Happiness
Autonomy and Freedom: Single individuals often cite the ability to make their own choices—from daily decisions like what to watch or eat, to major life decisions like a career change or moving—without having to compromise or consider a partner's input. This sense of self-determination is a significant source of satisfaction.
Strong Social Networks: Research indicates that happy single people tend to socialize more often with a diverse network of friends, family, and coworkers than their married counterparts. These relationships provide a strong support system, fulfilling the need for connection that society often assumes can only be met by a romantic partner.
Personal Growth and Self-Discovery: Singleness provides ample time and space for introspection, self-care, and personal development. Many find happiness in focusing on their own goals, exploring their values, and becoming more self-reliant and resilient.
Meaningful Work and Hobbies: Single people are more likely to highly value and pursue meaningful work or hobbies that align with their passions. The freedom to dedicate time and energy to activities that bring joy and a sense of purpose is a major happiness booster.
Valuing Solitude: Happy single people often have a positive view of time alone, seeing it as an opportunity for rejuvenation and inspiration, rather than something to be feared or avoided.

The key difference often lies in one's perspective. People who are unhappy being single often long for a relationship and focus on what they lack, while those who are happy embrace their current status and the unique opportunities it provides. Practicing "reality testing" to challenge negative thoughts and focusing on an abundance mindset helps. Ultimately, happiness stems not from a relationship status, but from curating a life that feels authentic and fulfilling on one's own terms.

MicahRaine · Answer

I mean I don't have a "ton" of friends but I have a few close friends who have literally fed me when I couldn't afford to buy food and put me in their own beds to care for me when I got really sick. I know they have my back.

Being single also comes with a lot of freedom. Like I'm playing football tomorrow morning, and I only heard about it a few hours ago. If I was in a relationship I'd almost certainly be dating my girl on a date or preparing something for her. Those are all good things, but it's much simpler to just do whatever you want because there's no one you'd slight because you didn't talk with them about your plans.

Hugs, yeah, definitely could use more of those. I get those from my friends often enough to scrape by though.

Physical affection? Yeah I mean without a partner physical affection defintely is lower. You just need to find a way to make it work. Took me a while but I'm there now.

Nobody to help with the bills? I mean that's just life lol you gotta make your way in the world.

Personally I've found it easier and easier to make friends as I've gotten older. Maybe I'm an odd duck though. Making trustworthy friends does take work though.

I'm not trying to just disagree with everything you're saying by the way, I'm just saying that's not my current experience. I've struggled with most of those things in the past and some of them to an extent now, but it's all about building little healthy habits. Especially mental and emotional habits.

Anonymous · Answer

The act of being happy doesn't depend on one being in a relationship. One can be massively unhappy with a partner (just look at the divorce rate). Your choice as a single pringle is you can sit alone in the dark and be sad and depressed, or you can make the most of your life, and get out on the social scene, travel, eat, drink, and be merry. You can still have days where you wish you were with someone (or not), but your life and your happiness doesn't exclusively depend on whether you are coupled up. You also can't look at what makes you happy personally and assume that that is the recipe for happiness for every other person on the planet, because it certainly is not.

DishLady · Answer

I'm usually happy, but I know lots of single people who are "dating voraciously" and just never happy.

Guys are always sleeping around (or claiming to) and wondering why they're not satisfied even though they've had so much action. Sex by itself doesn't feed the soul or the heart the way an actual relationship does. Guys don't always realize that bc they're "doers" and are expected not to be super emotional. But a satisfying relationship involves feelings.

Girls can't make up for a relationship by having SCADS of friends. It's not the same thing at all.

You either WANT a relationship or you WANT a friendship. Simple.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Perhaps you cannot imagine being happy while being single, and I do understand that belief. I have been either married or in a relationship for 44 of the past 50 years, and I have always been happier when in a relationship. However, everyone else is not like you or me. Some people are not suited for being in a relationship, some people do not want the responsibility, and some simply prefer being alone. You don't understand it but that doesn't mean they are not happy. . . but the happiness they feel may be quite different from the happiness that you and I feel.

HawkPerception · Answer

I agree with you entirely and I think it's because of the narrative that's been sold recently which pushes women to be "strong independent women" and not desire having men in their lives.

Humans are meant to have companionship and it's proven that loneliness negatively impacts your mental health, which in turn can even affect your physical well being and lifespan. There are very few people who are exceptions to that rule, if any at all.

I will always prefer being in a relationship and having someone to talk to, to lean on in hard times, to be physically intimate with, etc. It brightens life up when you have someone to share it with.

Summeroflove · Answer

Being single and lonely sucks… You aren’t wrong. However being married to the wrong person is by far worse. Imagine having someone who tears you down and isn’t there to support you. You can never express your true authentic self or express any emotions in your own household.

Doing everything for someone whose lazy and does nothing but bitch and complain in return.

If you so much as talk about a bad day at work. Oh you’re just too emotional I don’t wanna hear it…. But if they stub their toe you have to listen to them cry for a hour about it.

Finding the right person is the most important thing you can do. Sure no relationship is perfect. But by far better

HighValue · Answer

That is a woman's experience. For most married men, their wife does NOT have their back, but she expects him to have hers. Most wives expect the man to initiate hugs, affection, listen to them after work, pay the bills, etc. but most wives absolutely do not help with bills, do not care if their husband had a hard day at work, etc. Men may want love from a woman, but they know that most women only want them for their resources and don't actually care about the man at all. For most men, being single is MUCH less stressful, and costs a lot less than being married.

Most women are terrible, selfish, greedy, untrustworthy, uncaring, people that only add stress and hardship to men's lives. Why do you think a "man cave" is popular for married men? They want to get AWAY from their wives/girlfriend because she is most often a source of stress, NOT happiness or love.

TheInvincible · Answer

Honestly… I get lonely too. I’ve been single my whole life, and I don’t have friends I talk to every day, so most of the time it’s just me dealing with everything alone. Situations like this make it hit harder — you think someone might finally be good for you, then the red flags show up. I miss having someone to hug, someone to talk to after a long day, someone who actually has my back. But I cope. I stay focused on my goals, keep myself moving, and try not to let the loneliness push me into something unhealthy. I’d rather wait for the right person than settle for lies and drama.

Benjiman19 · Answer

As someone who is an everyday single person.. I feel I need to answer this question.

As my life may not be full of excitement or hugs or even love, I am still happy. Sure, sometimes it feels like I need someone to be in my life. However, that feeling passes after a day or so. I'm grinding on my work life right now and nothing (not even a potential lover) is going to stop my grind. I'm ready for a relationship, that's true. Yet my future is more important than a relationship right now. Once I've made my fortune while I'm still young, then I can mess around when I'm a little older. No need to rush something and get married right off the bat.

So to answer your question.. I'm happy that I'm creating a future for myself and my future partner to live comfortably and happily.

genericname85 · Answer

by being self sufficient, reflected and capable of understanding and satisfying their own needs. you can be happy without physical affection. speaking from experience here. you don't need 1000 friends, you just need a few quality ones. you don't need hugs when you're happy anyway. you mostly need them when you're not happy and then they don't "make you happy", they just make you less miserable in these situations. but feeling miserable will go away eventually whether you get a hug or not. that's how emotions work. they go away.

Simslover92 · Answer

I will admit I'm not happy being single but I'm not sad for the most part. Just content with my life but I am actively trying to date and if it leads to something more that's great but that doesn't mean being single is depressing for everyone. Some people are fulfilled being single.

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody to shun you when you want physical affection. Nobody to reject you when you need a hug. Nobody to nag you after a terrible day at work. Nobody to spend the money you save.

See, you can't automatically assume it's happy relationship. I'm not discouraging relationships. I'm just saying there are just as many negatives as positives.

I will agree with you on one point. It is harder to meet people as you get older (at least for a woman) I meet more women now then I ever have.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Answer

Single people aren’t happy because they’re single, they’re happy because they built a life that doesn’t depend on a relationship to feel whole.

They have routines, people, goals, and peace that give their days meaning.

A partner can add to it, but they’re not waiting for someone to ‘complete’ them.

Happiness feels lighter when it isn’t tied to another person’s behavior.

FreyaRed · Answer

As long as you're attractive, you get everything you need from the world. Problems start at the moment when you start to lose your attraction magic. However when you aren't histrionic, borderline or bipolar you will find something else that makes fun.

Zack-Bann · Answer

You can have happiness in your life single

But you won’t be truly happy all the time

The fulfillment of a pure partnership is impossible to substitute

Not saying it’s mandatory to have it
You can chose to be single and it won’t make you any less of a person

But it is what it is. Nothing substitutes the true relationship

Purpleronnie · Answer

I was happy single and I’m happy with my partner.

Happiness is a choice , made through mindful decisions and a conscious effort and ongoing dedication in selecting paths that positively influence their own happiness.

People that are miserable being single will likely be miserable with a partner as they haven’t realized that ‘THEY’ are most likely the reason they are unhappy being that only THEY truly have the means to affect it

jazzy34 · Answer

Happiness isn’t based on your relationship status. That’s like saying “I’m not truly happy unless I have a partner.” That’s a problem and you need to take a look at your self esteem. Plus, there are  so  many married who are unhappy. I don’t care what you see on social media. People have mastered pretending that they’re happy to fool their family and friends. You don’t know what’s going on with them behind closed doors.

AviatorTom · Answer

Marriage and being single each has their advantages and disadvantages.

When single, only close friends may have your back, but you are free to do whatever you want, whenever you want to do it.

When married, your spouse has your back, but you must work together as a team. You are rarely free to do what you want.

Everyone should enjoy some time being single, before settling down and getting married.

Straight2thepoint · Answer

U can believe what you want. Yes loneliness attached to single is a part of the story. But they have money and no drama. They f around and have no partner. They dont have to share a bed. Nor share life. They can do what their hearts desire. But when they have ran their life this way. They will never be satisfied with anything or anyone. Because loneliness is their hearts language.

Anonymous · Answer

Well that is only true if you assume the marriage is happy and healthy. Half of marriages end in divorce, which is hell in itself and also means the marriage was bad and at least one of them miserable. There’s no knowing how many of the other 50% of marriages suck. For sure they all aren’t happy. I think most people know married people who fight all the time, go through cheating, violence (physical, emotional and/or financial), feeling lonely in the relationship, have nothing in common, don’t do anything together, don’t have sex, don’t listen to each other, the woman having to do all the housework and taking care of the kids while also working outside the home and so on. To make the sort of statement you did is very naive.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most are not. They say they are to keep their spirits up. Just ask them on here, and you will see how miserable their existence really is.

Alex-Snow · Answer

Being happy does not always imply being in a relationship or being single. Many people in a relationship can be unhappy and many single people are happy. Personally I would miss the companionship, the fun, the convo and ofc the sex.

serious · Answer

Well, this is much better than compromising and adjusting with a person who is unworthy and is negative in many ways.

abc3643 · Answer

YOU HAVE

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Be friends with guys they make being single less lonely and they usually will be there if you need them.. Some are douche bags but some are really useful buddies..

douride2 · Answer

Just being in a relationship won't make you happy. I know at least a few married people that are miserable. I'm single & happy with my life.

RavVid · Answer

Well I decided to take a sabbatical from socializing with guys as well as girls and I have been more peaceful and happy.

loveyouoak · Answer

Let me tell you how single people are happy. Because they don't have to deal with toxic spouses. If you're single, appreciate it.

Iron_Man · Answer

of course we are not happy. We just can’t find the right woman in this generation. Everybody is looking out for themselves And what have you done for me lately

exitseven · Answer

I know guys that are single and love it. They do what they want and do not have to answer to anyone.

MikeMcMansion · Answer

I miss being single, only thing I missed was being a dad in a two biological-parent home. I’ll be an old af dad if that ever happens now

Dargil · Answer

They are when they are young, hot and self dependent. Then the new crop arrives.

MrChinaski · Answer

'Hell is other people.' Jean-Paul Sartre.

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

We just chillin, it's not pure happiness but even single there's ways to enjoy life.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not all people are wired the same way. Some seem to require a romantic relationship, others do not.

jahaims · Answer

You just haven't figured out how to be social and attract healthy people. If you don't have friends that says a lot about you.

WonderingManII · Answer

It depends on how independent you are. Some people have a talent for it, and some don't.

Zoi90 · Answer

Pretty happy actually don't have to answer to anyone. Able to go anywhere within 2 hours.

Anonymous · Answer

I need no-one simply Once you unlock a Truth you are free  same as learning you're dying slowly

In_Trance · Answer

If you are unable to be happy on your own you're not going to be happy with someone else either

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Damn, how much do you hate yourself?

snake3946 · Answer

that depends on what happy is to them some people are money hoarders some friends with benefits

Tbag_the_Programmer · Answer

Being in a relationship can make you much happier, but that doesn't necessarily mean that being single makes you miserable.

Anonymous · Answer

Well being a couple doesn't save any more money than being a single. In fact money is a big factor. I can spend money on myself. Men doesn't always have money.

Demetria5 · Answer

Don’t have to put up with The BS.

AustColombiangirl · Answer

easy I can do whatever I want

Counterclocking · Answer

There are pros and cons about the single life.

guesswhereivebeen · Answer

I think you got the wrong idea about single life…

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

You can get a girlfriend or boyfriend.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm single and not happy.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Im not even close to happy

Raydergman26 · Answer

Yes and it is ok

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