How do you become happier while single?

[Anonymous]

I have never had a girlfriend at the age of 25. I have tried several times to start a relationship, and each attempt ended in soul-crushing failure. At this point I just feel undesirable, but I'm also realistic about it. I know that there is at least one woman on the planet that will date me that I would also consider dating, but honestly I might just be happier giving up. Dedicating my time and livelihood in order to find a girl is taxing my mental health slowly. It just seems like I am always the one trying to make interactions happen. I go out of my way to be nice and attentive to the girls I like, and I'm always conscious of their boundaries. I just get lukewarm and indifferent responses as a result, and I'm never told why. I wish for once in my life someone would be the one to show interest in me and actively try to keep my attention, but it feels like no one cares. I want to learn to be happier as a single man, but I feel too lonely. My parents are upset with me because I'm not able to give them a grandkid. I try spending time with my friends, but they are starting to become too occupied with their relationships. They're all getting married. I spend my free time going to the gym and playing League of Legends now. I don't want to sound morbid but..

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I guess the first step would be to quit League, yea?

[JBlade]

I’m in the same boat, minus the grandkids part. Honestly, I gave up and am having the same results as when I was trying (I’m a decently good looking guy too). Ultimately, I don’t meet new people anymore or have a reason to, so I’ve gained more free time for myself as a result. That makes me happy. I’d say to keep doing things you already enjoy. I don’t know beyond that though.

[TroyDT]

In 10 or 15 years when many of your friends are complaining about their crappy marriages or alimony payments you will be happier.

[Midgetmcwidget]

I have a dog she is happiness.

[Asker]

I wish I could get a dog, but my place doesn't allow pets. I also spend too much time being out. I would feel terrible leaving my dog alone for extended periods of time.

[Midgetmcwidget]

Have to get two dogs to keep each other company

[Asker]

One of my friends has 5 dogs and they're all golden retrievers. I'm sure they don't get bored, but that seems so expensive 😱

[Midgetmcwidget]

Solves the grand parent issue, payout would be a pet parent and they would have grand children of the doggy kind. Can drop them off to look after. They wouldn’t be lonely and your parents would be happy