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Inspired by this random GAG question I came across here. It's a bit sloppy with the poll choices though, so I simplified it a bit.

1. Would you date a really amazing biological girl who looked like a guy/transwoman, or a biological guy who looked like a girl/low-effort transman? They have a 10 out of 10 personality and are everything you want in personality, but they look like the opposite gender to the point of coming off transgender (they're biologically "cis," however).

2. Would you date a great, awesome girl or guy who was 100+ pounds (45+ kg) overweight? They're at least 350 pounds; bare minimum, and are comfortable with their weight and who they are, physically. They have an 8 out of 10 personality. They're 80% of everything you could ever ask for in personality, and the missing 20% are more minor details.

3. Would you date a decent girl who was six inches taller than you, or a guy who was six inches shorter than you? They're also the same weight as you, but they have a pretty face. They have a 6 out of 10 personality and are the majority of everything you want in personality, on top of being super-attracted to you and want to jump your bones in bed. They're not ideal, but they're heavily attracted to you.

4. Or option D; die a virgin, having never even been hugged by the opposite gender before (or same gender, if you're into that.) Your social skills will be terrible, to the point you'll come off autistic or like you've got Asperger's. And the only thing worse than that will be your personal hygiene. You'll remain thirsty until the day you die and never know love, sex, or companionship.

WHICH ONE WOULD YOU RATHER DATE, IF THESE WERE YOUR ONLY OPTIONS?

I have an opportunity to marry a younger woman who has an excellent personality and is a very hard worker. We have been friends with for a few years now. It was her idea is purely for economical reasons. It would benefit us both.

But I am not in love with her and she knows that. She said she doesn’t care if I date and sleep with other people. This would be a paper marriage.

I have gotten advice for a few trusted people about this. All but one person said it’s a bad idea. I am leaning towards no myself but besides the economical arrangement a part of me wonders if I’ll ever find an ideal partner given my age.

Ever since I hit 36 (in my early 40s now) my dating life has been hell on earth trying to find a truly decent woman I feel attracted to. I have had a few flings with attractive women who would make horrible wives. I tried dating a girl who i felt so so about physically just for her personality. That slowly got agonizing. I ended up breaking up with her and that ended very badly (she went psycho).

However of me just WANTS this life milestone. But I don’t want to be an adulterer. Even though she understands I might date other woman I do have spiritual beliefs. Oddly the Bible doesn’t say anything direct about premarital sex (but it heavily implied that’s not alright). But it is VERY clear about adultery. I wouldn’t feel comfortable cheating on my wife. Even if it really is a paper marriage and it doesn’t sit well with me.