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How do you determine if someone is young enough to be your child? Is it when you start having kids? Maybe when you get married? When you start having sex? When you reach adulthood? Or when you hit puberty? As someone who doesn't have any kids yet; the idea of someone young enough to be my child is an interesting conundrum. The two most logical options being when I actually start having kids and when I was physically capable of being a father. But the gap between these two is immense (12-40 for me and 0-28 for my imaginary kid). Adulthood seems like a reasonable solution until you think about the fact that I didn't have sex in my early adult years; which is becoming more common in society. Marriage has similar issues with plenty of people having kids but never getting married; or getting married and never having kids. So what do you think? At what point in your life do you think people born afterwards should be considered young enough to be your child?

I would suggest that it is. Years ago, Before i met my wife, I believe i was 26 at the time, was in love with a woman who i wanted to marry, We had been together for two years at the time. We had talked repeatedly about spending our lives together and getting married, even having children. So I set up a romantic outing with all of her favorite things, Got down on my knee and proposed to her. She turned me down. I got up, I said nothing, I walked away. Leaving her where she was. I think she had to walk home. She was pissed at me, She called me, and i politely explained to her that i was done with her, that if she didn't want marriage, i was not going to waste my time with her any more. I told her that she was essentially dead to me, and that her stuff would be in a box on my front porch (she lived with me about 50% of the time). As of now, i am 41 and she is 38. She is still single, No children, No family, Alone. From what her friends told me about her situation, she also attempted suicide a few times and spent time in and out of the hospital. This is the life she condemned her self to. I have ZERO sympathy for her.

My opinion is this, If the man proposes, does everything right, makes an effort, And she says no, Any further association is a waste of time, and she becomes unworthy of marriage.