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Alex and lover Kelly move in together. Both have graveyard schedules & smoke. Kelly usually finishes smoking faster & goes inside first. Kelly also uses a small metal black footstool outside.

Alex can't see it in the dark & bangs their leg hard walking back inside. Small cut, big bruise! Alex moves it out of the walkway. Alex doesn't blame Kelly for the accident and admits to not looking before walking; but since Kelly insists on keeping patio light off, asks Kelly to move it out of the way when not in use. Kelly says ok but be more careful.

This happens 3 more times over the next few days. Each time ending in Alex moving it aside & a gentle reminder for Kelly to please move it before coming inside. Alex comments on the worsening pain as time goes on & is limping some now. Kelly shows minimal concern or help. The 3rd time, Alex is very frustrated and confronts Kelly more harshly. Kelly agrees to put more thought into remembering but Alex should really learn to walk around the area to avoid another accident.

Two weeks Kelly just hasn't used the stool so it couldn't be accidentally left out again. Alex's leg has swollen & bruised up alarmingly bad. A quarter sized blood clot is ballooned out of Alex's calf, requiring blood thinners.

One night the couple is outside together again and Kelly uses the stool. Just like before its left out & Alex kicks it falling inside with intense pain crying out for Kelly's soothing. Kelly asserts "if you can't learn to look where you're going then I guess I'll just have to throw it away". Alex says its unfair to force guilt like that. "Either my fault you have to trash your footrest or its my fault i got hurt again when I'm the only one moving it aside and you keep moving it back and forgetting". Alex suggests finding a way so the stool more visible like glowing tape or using the patio light. Kelly refuses, rules it trash, & both stay upset the rest of the day...

Who is right?

Current situation rent is great and I've been living at this place since 2017. I haven't had any personal issues really up until now. Neighbor below me is overweight, loud , and obnoxious. Constantly hear her through the walls beating up her boyfriend and envious of me saying I'm a man snatched trying to take her man. Mind you he's unhealthy and unattractive too. So she's been keeping drama. The type of people they're moving in is a bit concerning, they are at pool after hours loud, you could smell weed, will leave food on the ground, speed in a 15mph, dog off leash. It's like they have no home training. Things have been fixed though so I hope it last.

I'd like to be around people who have as much to lose as I do. More professional people like myself. So I plan on moving. If your rent is an excellent price would you move to a more upscale professional areas where rent is $300 more or stay where you are? I'm at a place in my life where I want to be around better people.

Personally, my partner has been around longer than my friends that I’ve met since moving back to my hometown. I believe that he should come first as this relationship is more likely to outlast any friendship (apart from my best friend that I’ve known since we were young children.) I will not hesitate to choose him over temporary friends that I’ve made in my twenties.

My friend thinks that this is insane and that I should choose my friends over him. I would get this if he was a newer love interest but we’ve been in each other’s lives for almost 5 years. I believe that friends will come and go forever, but a relationship with your one person could last a lifetime, at least that is usually the goal.

My question to you is, if it came down to choosing between the two, who would you pick?