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Just a thought because my last ex was fat actually. I know there's a stigma with that word, but I'm just telling it like it is and describing him.

Do you think most people end up with their same size of a partner? I don't like that to be honest with you because it's not like they can HELP their body type! (Nor can I for that matter and I'd be the skinny one in the relationship). How much a person weighs and their body shape is a lot based on genetics and lifestyle! One you can control yes, but the other you can't! Also, I think age is and health is a big factor as well!.. Your thoughts?

Plus, I've seen "different shaped couples" work out so..

The actor John Goodman (from Rossanne fame), his real life wife was, I wouldn't say skinny, but definitely not fat. She just started gaining weight after having children and aging, but when she was younger, she wasn't his body shape!

My ex's brother is also skinny but his wife is more of normal shape.

I also had another ex who had a friend who was dating this fat chick. It was like a ball and stick I would say to myself lol. Sorry yeah, that was mean. I learned my lesson lol. It's just that she wasn't always nice lol and so I guess I gave her that nickname in my head to make up for it lol. .. And the dude was skinner than normal, that's why.

Update: Just like being racist, it's not like you can always control your body shape! and people can change shape once they get older, get sick, situation, socio-economic changes, etc!

So my (28f) best friend (28f) just gave birth to her first & possibly only child (yay!!!). She had a high risk pregnancy & she had a very difficult L&D, where she lost a lot of blood & thankfully she pulled through with medical intervention. Baby also had to had to have immediate medical intervention after the birth for a common issue with newborns. Baby had to be taken to Rainbows in the city about 40min away from the hospital she gave birth at.

She only wanted 2 people in the room with her, her husband (28m) & her mom (53f). Her husband left to go with the baby & her mom stayed with her for the first day. My friend got transferred to Rainbows to be with her baby & to continue the postpartum monitoring. Her husband had to leave their child to go with my friend because her mom didn't want to go with her during transport.

My friend's texting me about how she's alone in the hospital room, because the dad needs to be with the baby, that's in another wing, to talk to the doctors. I asked about her parents & she responded that they didn't want to come all the way out there.

I told her my toddler was sick, normal congestion/runny nose/cough for the season, & I didn't want to bring those germs to her or her newborn, or I would be there with her. She said it was okay & her husband is going back & forth between the wings to be with both of them.

I talked to my mom about my friend being left alone & she about lost it. She couldn't believe that her mom just left her alone in a hospital & wouldn't stay with her after she almost died. It doesn't help that my friend's mom told my mom that she wasn't excited about the baby until about a week before the baby was here.

My family took shifts with me while I was in the hospital during my postpartum monitoring & I had the easiest & fastest L&D! So it really broke my mom's heart that my friend's mom left her alone after she needed intervention.

So would you leave your child alone after giving birth? Even if they almost died?