What do I answer to “i wish I could give you more but I really can’t, I can’t really give anybody more” ?

[Anonymous]

One guy I was seeing keeps canceling on me for various reasons. Telling me that he really misses me and he does really want me over but things just come up. Some examples of things that came up in the past: he had to set up a desk, his friends dragged him out, he is super tired, his stomach hurt, he got sick, etc. I understand that most of those are valid reasons because he did really get sick, etc. the thing is I do really like him and I don’t want a relationship. I’m just fine with us being friends but it really feels like he doesn’t want to put any effort in. Did he really have to set the desk up the same day after he made plans with me? Probably not. My question is what do I say to that? “I can’t give u more” I don’t really want this to be over but also I want him to understand that I have my standards and won’t settle for someone that can’t keep up with his plans. In my opinion, I really think he could move some stuff around if I was aa important to him as he says. How do I tell him that in a nice way?

[Anonymous]

You have your standards in place and he doesn’t meet them, simple as that. Never compromise that for someone else, especially not a guy you aren’t building something with and it’s just a casual thing. You could find someone else that respects your time and is more available out of the gate. I’m sure this man is cool in his own ways but he’s just way too busy and is literally saying as much. I think you should put your crush aside and honor what you need right now from a person, don’t settle.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh and 100% yes, if he wanted to he would. I think he likes the idea of you but just doesn’t have the time and isn’t prioritizing you the way he does other people. Sure you could call him on it but this is supposed to be casual, it either works or it doesn’t.

[Billlewis]

Just tell him that you can't continue your arrangement with him.

[bededazzle]

either tolerate it, tell him what’s up, or walk away

[ThrillSeeker01]

Yes of course, all of those were excuses. He's just not enthusiastic about this relationship.

[Anonymous]

Lame excuses.