I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, he is 22, i am 24. We like to go out party with friends and stuff but I’m starting to have concerns for my boyfriend. Sometimes he will do coke with friends when we go out to party which obviously isn’t good but i don’t make a big deal over it unless its a regular thing or being overly consumed.
Recently he got prescribed.5 of clonzapan (might be spelling it wrong) for his panic attacks & anxiety, I honestly felt like they shouldn’t have prescribed that as he was once prescribed the exact same thing as me (we deal with similar problems) and I’ve heard they are addictive.
the doctor told him to take one when he is having a panic attack. Not long ago we were home and he was drinking but his behaviour was very off, he was kinda rude and just not himself. I went to the bathroom and noticed there was less meds in the bottle, i asked him if he has been having panic attacks and he said no, which caused me to believe he was just taking them for the fun of it.
we stayed home last night, had some drinks and this morning i look now he only has 2 pills left when yesterday there was 4. Last night his behaviour was a bit off again, not rude this time but different.
Earlier this month he had drank maybe 4 drinks and took one of the pills ( he later told me) he was really sick and i told him that if he had mixed his drinks and meds than this is the reason to the way he feels.
so i want to bring his up to him because i am very concerned that he is abusing his meds (knowing him he probably won’t get them refilled) but the fact that they we’re supposed to be there for when he needed them and now he barely has any is very concerning to me.
ps. I find sometimes he gets very defensive or even offended over anything so i need to go about it the right way
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Yo well, this is a tough convo for sure but an important one. Here's how I'd recommend bringing it up:
Call him when you're both sober and calm. Tell him you care about him and his health, which is why you need to talk. Say you've noticed the meds disappearing way too fast and his behavior changing when drinking/taking them.
Don't accuse, just state your observations and concerns gently. Make it about wanting to understand and help, not attack him. Say mixing alcohol increases risk of addiction and overdose, so you want to prevent issues down the line.
Offer to help get him into counseling to find healthier ways of dealing with anxiety. Suggest talking to his doc about alternative meds if needed. Coming at it from a place of caring will disarm his defenses.
Let him know you're there for him no matter what and this won't damage your relationship if he's open and honest. Reassure it's normal to struggle sometimes and need support. The goal is getting through this together.
Hope this approach helps start an open dialog man. His health is the priority here. With patience and teamwork you guys got this!
Oh sht ! The solution to everything is NOT A PILL ! Highly addictive and neither of you should be taking this stuff , and he is not helping his mental illness doing cocaine , this drug is not an option ..
Worried? Dam right you should be worried the entire scenario is a recipe for early death , get him and yourself , to get off this sht and understand that legal drugs do not solve problem , start from there as your focus. It would be bad enough if I ( 62 YEARS old ) were taking this stuff , for people in their 20s --Not even a remote option.
Oops sorry maybe i worded this wrong, i dont take clonzapan, i was prescribed a small dose of citolapram which i am already considering to stop! I agree its a recipe for disaster, i feel like in the future if he keeps up like this its not going to be good and i personally dont want to build a life with someone struggling with addiction… unfortunately as i do really care for him
Seriously - STOP if you can..
I have a mate like your boyfriend , he had made it to 52 and is alive , but he is now bipolar , multiple suicide attempts , multiple accidents , always in hospital , did truckloads of coke , his mind is completely screwed , this is how your boyfriend will end up and thats if he is lucky ! Cocaine is far more dangerous than many of those uses would have you believe , and mix in script drugs , alcohol , and god knows what else , its a day be day proposition.