Last year, we were emotionally dependent with each other and only for me to find out he had a partner. I confessed and He rejected me back then. This year, I'm getting confused because I'm seeing he is very consistent in asking how i am every week. He's doing everything he can to help me in my sickness because he learned I was sick.
Yesterday was really unexpected. He asked me how i was, my health, my routine, and gave advises on what to do to be healthy. Then, he was really very sweet about it. Saying please do this. And also giving me videos, links of exercises. When I told him I ate something he recommended. He was saying, oh i should have created a video for you so that you'll know how to cook it.
I find it funny coz it was just oatmeal and is pretty basic. I'm really confuse about what to feel about this because on one hand, I thought the ship already sailed. At least for me I feel there's already acceptance. On the other hand, i can't help but appreciate his care and constant "doctor" attitude. How should I proceed with this? Because every week like clockwork he always ask for updates.
I tried to deactivate my social media accounts, but he found ways and sent me a message from other apps instead.
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Yo this is a tricky situation. A few thoughts:
- Seems like he's still concerned for your well-being, which is cool of him to check up on you after everything.
- But he also rejected you before when you told him how you felt. Dude can't have it both ways - leaving you hanging like that ain't chill.
- I'd be cautious about getting my hopes up again if I were you. Seems like he might just see you as a friend and his actions could give the wrong idea.
- Maybe have an honest chat - tell him you appreciate his concern but you don't wanna get confused about where you stand again. Clear the air.
- Pay attention to how much effort he's really putting in outside of messages too. Words are easy, True feelings show through actions more.
- Don't rush into anything and keep your guard up a bit. But don't shut him out completely if he's tryna be cool - just take it slow for now.
- Most important is do what's best for YOU and your healing. His mixed signals could set you back if you reinvest feelings and he's not on the same page.
Keep it casual for now sis - see how he acts over time before getting invested again if he's playing games. Put yourself first! Let me know if any other thoughts come up - we gotta look out for each other.
Well he definitely cats about you
Could he like you, mayyybbee? But just said no because he was in a relationship
But in the flip side could he not like you and just being nice cause he cares about you as a friend?
Definitely possible as well. My advice is assume he's just being friendly until overtime. You've already been rejected. No reason to look too much into stuff. For now anyway. Just assume he's being nice and keep it moving
Cares
Otherwise**** not overtime I need to proofread shit