My boyfriend and i have been through lots together but this past year things have been more rocky.
when i first met my boyfriend he was very sweet and shy but now i feel like he’s changed.
he can be such a negative person and i know he does struggle a bit with mental health problems but that shouldn’t excuse his behaviour entirely. Whenever i start the tell him a story he will take this big sigh as if its too much of a bother but when he wants to tell me stories about things i could careless about i listen anyways. Im just becoming tired of him being such a mood killer, for example; i could be dancing/singing and he will look at me with a blank expression.
his idea of fun is anything that involves drinking & the drinking part is what he gets more involved in.
he is not as affectionate as i would like a guy to be and i have told him but he doesn’t make an effort to change that.
the thing that scares me about breaking up is that i moved 10 hours from home to this town (i do have grandparents that i moved in with before meeting my boyfriend) and im sorta afraid of being on my own, I dont want to move back in with my grandparents and look my independence. My current home is also 2 mins away from work so i really dont want to lose this place…
there is a lot for me to think about but i do know im just becoming tired, i sometimes feel more like a mother and friend than a girlfriend.
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Time to move on your right her changed or just is showing his real behavior!
Mental health is a huge thing that changes people and is never a reason or excuse
Time to pack up and leave after a 3.5 years with him.
People change and he got terrible 😔.
Sorry it will end this badly.
Whose name is on the lease?
His name is but i think i will ask the landlord to add me, our lease isn’t different the a typical one, but we found the place together and i am the one who can afford to live here on my own rather than him
Well that's between you and the landlord. Seeing that you aren't married, Im not sure how much say so you have in adding your name to a legal document your name wasn't on to begin with. I'm pretty sure he has to be their with you. Option A talk to the landlord and keep it strictly business , don't talk about your relationship problems. Option B tell him you need to add your name to the lease because you're paying all the bills or you're gone. Cut your losses.
Option C swallow your pride and put what ever paycheck after the bills to the side. If you're not happy you have the right to use the situation to your advantage. You said you make all the money... Then make the chicken that will benefit you and see how he reacts.
Choices* no chicken involved lol
Find someone better, who really is into you