What should I do to the relationship at this point?

[Anonymous]

Me and this girl have met in person and we hit it off. We started texting and we FaceTime a lot and flirt with each other. One time she just started to barely text me so I thought she lost interest. So I just didn’t respond to her but she double texted me later asking why I wasn’t responding. At that point in time I thought she is genuinely interested and thought she barely responds because she is busy. Fast forward, we started flirting and talking a lot again. However, she starts doing the same thing as last time. She started responding less and less and she now turned off her location for me (so I can’t see her location anymore). I asked her about it and she just doesn’t give me a straight answer. I don’t want to sound like I’m desperate but what should I do? Is she playing losing interest or playing mind games with me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, this girl is definitely giving you mixed signals and playing games. As much as you may like her, you gotta stand up for yourself here and not let her mess with you.

A few things I would do:

- Back way off on responding to her texts right away. Give it some time so she doesn't think you're just waiting around.

- Don't double or triple text her asking what's up when she doesn't reply. Let it be and do your own thing.

- Call her out subtly next time she hits you up out of the blue after ignoring you. Like "Oh, so you do remember my number existed haha."

- Don't sweat not being able to see her location. That's a little extreme for a girl you just started seeing anyway.

- Start talking to other girls too so you're not just focused on this one that's hot and cold.

- Give her one more chance but be prepared to walk if the games continue. You deserve better than that stress.

Don't chase her hard, make her pursue you for a change. See if she steps up consistently or keeps acting sketchy. You got this man!

[petitedollbabee]

She might be keeping you on the back burner. Hence the back and forth sudden messages and then lack of replying. She could be searching for someone better, and keeping you around until then just in case she can’t find “better”. I think you’re best to just stop talking to her, it’s not worth your energy.

[ProbablyClueless]

It could be that she's keeping you on the backburner. She might also just really suck at texting, I've dated women like that.

Let me give you some game that stops breadcrumbing and baiting right in it's tracks; stop reacting and don't invest in her more than she is investing in you.

Don't try to win her attention or favor.