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This article argued that men’s lack of emotional support systems leads to increased burdens on women in relationships—coining the term “mankeeping” to describe the emotional labor women perform in supporting their male partners - The Hidden Costs of Men's Social Isolation: When men suffer social isolation, women may pay the price, too - www.scientificamerican.com/.../


I chose Option 2 – Men’s struggles shouldn’t be framed through the lens of how they affect women. That’s not empathy—that’s ego wrapped in victimhood.
This article tries to sound supportive of men but ultimately centers women as the ones who suffer because of men’s loneliness, as if men being emotionally isolated is a burden on them. Imagine framing women’s depression or trauma by saying, “Well, men suffer when women are emotionally distant.” It would be considered sexist and dismissive—and rightly so.
Emotional labor exists in both directions. If a woman is exhausted from carrying the emotional weight in a relationship, that’s a valid issue. But that doesn’t mean men’s pain is hers to fix—or that his isolation is somehow her responsibility. That kind of framing only deepens the gender divide and discourages men from seeking help.
If we actually want to support men, we need to talk to them, not about how their pain makes things harder for everyone else.
- Eva ❤️

It just seems like that's the way it is in modern dating thanks to dating apps and social media. Girls are flooded with matches and messages when they sign up for a dating app and it is pretty common for her to have over 100 matches in less than 24 hours after creating her profile. They also get a ton of DM's from guys via social media too. For a guy on the other hand, it is common for him to only get around 10-20 matches in less than 24 hours after signing up for a dating app and most of the girls that match with him either don't respond or their convo won't go far before it fizzles out. Guys have said it can take over a month just to get one first date from a dating app and most of the time there is no second date because the girls have such a big selection of guys they're talking to. Guys also never get DM's from girls on social media obviously and when they try to DM a girl, she's getting so many other messages from guys alongside his that he never gets a response. All of this considered, it seems like it has never been easier for a girl to meet a guy in the modern dating era, but it is harder than ever for a guy to meet a girl. Agree or disagree?