Why people pretend to dislike someone they like

[Summeroflove]

A lot of times someone just isn’t interested. But why do some people play hard to get? I have some possible answers that may help you. The last answer is the number one reason.

KNOWING YOU ARE NOT COMPATIBLE

They hold secret feelings for you but if they’re either in a relationship or know that a relationship may never work out. They may never act on those emotions even if they do find you attractive. Maybe they just know it’s not meant to be as well as there is too many differences.

EMBARRASSED OF YOU

This one is a real stinker but it’s true. That person may be ashamed they like you and embarrassed. They don’t want their friends or family to know they are attracted to you. So they may push you away and even be hateful towards you. While they may secretly think you’re attractive. They are too worried about what others will think so they will never probably act on it.

A DEFENSE MECHANISM/PAST TRAUMA

This is the largest reason as to why people pretend to not be interested in someone. If someone’s used to being rejected, hurt, discarded, and pushed away. They may be trying to sabotage the relationship before you can. They want to reject you before you can reject them…. Another thing is that they have not only been rejected. But also used and discarded therefore they have to hurt you before you hurt them. It’s a defense, they may really like you. But they pretend to not like you as a defense

[Finchie40]

Because they are nervous to express their true feelings around the person they actually like , I only date girls’ so i experienced some girls’ doing this to me , that I thought was stupid of them to do , when I confronted them on it , they finally confessed why they did it , and that’s pretty much the reason why,, they put their guard up because they were nervous to express their true feelings towards me , because they were scared I would break their heart , and take advantage of of them , if I knew how they truly felt about me. The truth is she wants to be in your arms and wants you to rock her world. Even though is acting like a bitch towards you , she actually
Might be weak on her knees for you

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t know, but it’s such a stupid game that was taught to us that the more uninterested you are with someone the more they like you and not to be desperate as a woman not to put too much effort because they’ll be with somebody else.

[Summeroflove]

It is but many times those are also the reasons behind it. But a lot of times too someone just will genuinely be disinterred. It’s just some insight not that people should waste time or sacrifice their own emotional and mental well being to be with someone like that. Because it would likely end in misery

[Justneedtokno]

OK, I understand. It’s fine and dandy to to be miserable and alone, but they say misery loves company so at the end of the day is brave and courageous to even reach out and say hey, I like you I would like to try to get to know you versus not doing anything at all. At least you’ve gone over the hurdle and you’ve conquered that. you’ve learned a little bit more about yourself in a situation.

[Summeroflove]

The thing of it is the people who get involved with people like this. Many times end up being brought down into their misery.

I’m not attacking people struggling we all do and a real couple emotionally supports one another. But there is plenty of people too who don’t want to heal. They just want to bring people down with them

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Yeah, that whole idea of “if they make fun of you they secretly like you” is some bullshit. We don’t need to be teaching kids, especially young kids, that your bully secretly has a crush on you. We don’t need to romanticize that. If their response to liking you is to make you miserable, they don’t deserve the toilet they shit in, let alone you.

[Chargirllll]

@CupcakeTheDestroyer sometime it's truth though. It's how lot of boys show they like girls and vice versa.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

See, this is all the more reason we don’t like each other. I say “we shouldn’t romanticize abusive acts in the name of making the bully feel better about being a bully” and you say “but it’s true!” We have completely different perspectives on the kind of people we allow into our lives and consider worthy. You want to surround yourself with people that hurt you? That’s your business, not mine.

[Summeroflove]

I agree and more times then not as adults. It’s for one of the reasons I listed. Either they are embarrassed of someone or it’s a defense mechanism.

I get those people aren’t really ready for a relationship but it gives people some insight

[Summeroflove]

The best thing to do is move on if someone’s not showing you attraction

[Summeroflove]

@Chargirllll maybe as younger but when people grow up unless they are just they immature that’s how they show it. Plenty of women do this as well.

[Summeroflove]

I agree too. People shouldn’t focus on those people whether they genuinely just aren’t interested (a lot of the time) or there is something else going on why they’re acting like that even if they like you.

Healthy relationships take two people genuinely showing interest and building that connection. You will forever if you even get into anything with someone like that. Have to prove yourself to them meanwhile many of them will do whatever they want.

If someone’s embarrassed of you but you’re their only option. That’s going to suck as well

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

I would just walk away if a man doesn't want to grow up, mature and learn how to be assertive.

Yes. Some men did that to me. Though I knew they might be interested, respect and manners should come first.

[Summeroflove]

Not assertive as feeling entitled to someone
though.

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Worse. They compare me to others. No one likes that, eh?

[Nikki1989]

Fear of rejection. For some people, expressing liking someone makes you vulnerable to rejection, so they avoid it.

[Summeroflove]

That’s a major reason why. It’s a defense mechanism. People who have been rejected as well as have been used. Don’t want to go through it again. So they have to sabotage it before you do.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

They're trying to see if reverse psychology would work on them

[katiesmuff]

Has always baffled me!

[Anonymous]

People still do that?

[Summeroflove]

It happens

[PrincessC16]

Damn I wish I would've been as mature about relationships as you are at your age!

[Opinion Owner]

I can't have any romantic relationships