How do I stop people making jokes about me and my guy bestfriend?

[Puppystarfish23]

Obviously my best friend is my husband but I have two very close friends at my work no one questions me and Anna's friendship because we are both girls.

Me and my best friend Louis have been good friends for 4 years and no one had anything to say about it till recently. Louis even been to my wedding and is like a little brother to me.

He comes from a very poor family and has had a very hard upbringing. Me and my other friends have kinda adopted him and tried to help him out of the unfortunate situation he was born in. He also struggles with ADHD and other mental health issues. I've always had to be abit of a pushy mum type with him. Now he's focusing on himself and just been promoted to afternoon shift manger at my work in the cleaning department and I'm so proud of him.

Me and my friends are trying to help him out but I'm so proud of how far he's came and that's all because of him and his hard work.

I've helped him out when it's came to dating girls but atm he currently wants to stay single because he struggles with break ups and gets abit carried away with people he likes.

He's always bringing me snacks into work and taking care of me on my bad days but that's just what good friends do. When we are together we're just like brother and

My husband gets on well with too and says he's the nicest of my friends.

Everyone keeps asking if he's my boyfriend/husband and he's getting the same questions too because we are always together at work but that because we just love to gossip and joke around. I've always had male friends and I fit in well with guys. His colleagues keep joking but we like each other which is really annoying as it couldn't be further from the truth we've both told each other that too but we don't like each other like that and we're both on the same page. He always jokes it off but I get very defensive as I love my husband and I know he wouldn't appreciate them jokes.

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Louis is basically Ian gallagher but not gay

[SteveSmith1985]

You just need to put your foot down with the people making jokes. Let them know it's not appreciated. Make sure they understand that you're not joking. They're just using you two for momentary time-killing work joking. They don't actually care, and aren't going to dig their heels in on this.

Nobody is intending to actually upset you (presumably). If you can convey that this isn't a joke that you take as a joke--it bothers you. That should do it. But that's the only solution. You have to deal with it head on.

[Puppystarfish23]

Yea it just really annoys me because they insist there must be something going on because we're both averagely attractive people and our of the opposite gender.

He's a big inspiration to me and I hope one day if I become rich but I can start a charity helping more young people like him succeed in life.

[SteveSmith1985]

Oh I get it. It makes sense that it annoys you. But you're going to have to speak up forcefully to change the joking about being a couple. They'll only stop once they realize you're totally serious. You don't like these jokes.

[glennos89]

You don't realise that your male friends wanne poke you whenever they get the chance. Others who are making jokes about it do realise how things actually are. Woman always think that their best male friends are plutonic friends only but in fact 90% of them are silenty hoping to get a chance of being more then friends. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[236color]

It's very hard/impossible to control what other people say, or what they find amusing. Better to attempt to stop caring what they think.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Just tell them to stop. It not funny or cute and you won't stand for it

[NathanDavis]

how long it's been like this?

[Puppystarfish23]

3 months or so but it was just one silly old man saying it to begin with now its multiple people are saying shit

[NathanDavis]

probably... the more you entertain it, the more they will keep at it

ignore it, and it will get old by itself... they will move on to the next "funny" thing, lol