How do I deal with being hated?

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In the last year or so I've gone from a nobody at work to a very important person.

I'm the only and first woman in my department and I've had to prove myself and work a lot harder then my male colleagues to be listened too and respected.

Even before I became important I always stuck up for the little people and thought for what I believed was right even when it didn't make me popular meaning I've had a lot of men start hate campaigns against me for exposing how terrible they are. I'm labelled a bitch, trouble maker, snitch etc.

Maybe it's because I'm neurodivergent I've always had a strong sense of justice and found it easy not to show emotions.

Some people love me and respect me at work and see my side of the story because there not easy to manipulate.

Whenever someone goes to war with me at work they usually end up losing and usually get fired in the long run but paint themselves as the victim even though they wouldn't have gotten fired without reason or evidence but some people are too dumb to see that one.

I don't go round telling people my side of the story and try to gang up on people. I can fight my own battles and don't need to prove myself to others and play victim.

Today some guy who harassed me at work because he believed I snitched on him when I wasn't even on the same shift as him and they caught him on cctv was fired and escorted off the building by security.

What really happened is his friend who was one of the men in my department we've been trying to get rid of for years due to him being a lair, fraud and all round scumbag told him deeply sensitive information about another colleagues mental health to use it against them and blame the for the reason they were in trouble. I reported this guy who told him to mangerment and the next day when I wasn't on shift they got caught trying to make their story together to get away with it.

The other guy blames me and yelled in my face and constantly harassed me.

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

I just laughed so hard at your second update.

You are going to have to become ok with idiots hating you. That doesn't mean you should put up with harassment, or screaming in your face or any of that nonsense.

However, you cannot live according to your morals, while having the position you have; without idiots hating you.

It's impossible. You doing what's right; and people not hating you is a no-sum gain situation.

The more you do right, the more idiots will hate you (in number and intensity).

You are not willing to compromise on doing the right thing (I think that's good).

Therefore, you are going to be hated. A lot. The maximum amount of hate possible (for the offence of always doing right).

If you're going to do your job, you will be hated by people who dislike your style, morals, or you personally as a human. Fuck 'em.

Who cares? If the idiots hate you, but you're not doing the wrong thing, then let them hate you. They can't do anything with their hate. If you don't let it bother you, it doesn't even exist at all (in your world).

If people don't act right. Deal with that. Otherwise, let them think whatever they want. It doesn't matter. It doesn't affect you unless you care. Why care about the opinion of idiots.

I'm not familiar with Taylor Swift's catalogue. But surely she has a song about this. Put that song on.

Who cares if idiots hate you. Idiots hate me too. I lose zero sleep over it. (I'm actually glad. It helps me know I'm not an idiot myself).

🙂

PrincessC16 · Answer

Hang in there, the truth always comes out. I know when I worked there was always some drama. Mostly people sticking their noses in other people's business.

I personally do not believe in snitching, but I guess you did what was right for you and that's all that matters. It will all blow over here probably by the end of this week.
It's very hard to work with people in a group sometimes. But its okay. You can do this!

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