Why do they still pay attention when I try so hard to be invisible?

[Anonymous]

I’m the new girl in town and I’ve noticed I get a lot of stares, mostly from men but sometimes from women too (usually more judging or jealous looks). I’m naturally quite curvy in certain areas, and I honestly hate the attention.

I go out of my way to wear baggy clothes, avoid eye contact, wear hats—anything to tone it down and stay low-key. But it feels like no matter what I do, people still look.

I’m not trying to stand out. I’m not dressing to show anything off. I don't show cleavage.
I just want to go about my day in peace, workout, go back home and watch a serie. I don't talk to others when I don't have to. I am an introvert but try to stay fit.

So my question is: why do people still pay so much attention, even when someone is clearly trying to not be noticed?
I mean I won't even pay attention to someone who shows they don't like it.

Is it just curiosity? Entitlement? Attraction? Disrespect? Or all of the above?

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

It's hard to know without seeing you why people are noticing you so much. It might be, "Wow, she's hot!" or it might be, "My god, how can she walk with those things on her chest?". Or maybe they think you might be Sydney Sweeney. Or it could be a whole bunch of other things too.

Are the people who are noticing you bothering you in any way? Or do they just look in your direction? Do they stare to the point that it becomes creepy?

[Asker]

It's more like they don't care they get caught and then when I show that I noticed it, they keep staring as if it is some type of competition who stares longer. That is how it seems like to me.

I always been a nerd so I don't notice if it's a good thing.

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

And you're in your early thirties? Do you look younger?

Does the staring seem lustful? Friendly? Both? Neither?

Do any of these guys who are staring try to talk to you, ever?

[Asker]

No I am a bit younger. Yeah I look younger for my age

I think lustful bc of my chest

No these guys don't ever try to talk

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

How large is your chest? Am I allowed to ask what size bra you wear?

What part of the world do you live in? Is it someplace where women aren't usually out and about by themselves?

[Asker]

No thank you. That's too far

[NotLongKindaGirthy]

How young are you? Just curious.

What about the guys you date? Are they obnoxious about the way you look? Are they always staring at you lustfully?

[Nikki1989]

You should just embrace what you have and make the most of it.