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My (30F) guy (50M) and I have been together for close to 8 years now. He catfished me into thinking he was younger but because we mentally connected first, I overlooked the age gap. In recent years, things have taken a bad turn. I don’t know if it’s because he is dealing with the loss of his dad or learning how to be a caretaker to his 88 year old mom but he snaps very quickly lately.

We are long distance and fight a lot more than normal and because he is my first experience, I am unsure what is normal and not okay. When he gets mad or jealous, he says horrible things — he has called me things like slut, whore, stupid bitch, etc. Recently, he has been mad about how I financially support my family who he considers freeloaders. I have never asked him for any money but he doesn’t want me to spend mine on them either. He has also critiqued my weight in the past and made comments about stretch marks and said I need to look better and at my age he was very good looking.

It’s hard because I do work on myself and I’ve never commented on how he looks even though he is balding (understandable at his age and not an issue for me) and not exactly in great shape. He is just very critical. But our most current fight relating to my family was the worst:

When he threatened to send XXX pics of me to my family, I freaked out and told my sister. He is mad that I went to my sister and “threw him under the bus” because those threats were between me and him. He called me useless and said he wishes he had used and disposed of me.

I told him I’m done with him but today he is acting like nothing happened. Is this all normal? Is this how couples fight or is this emotional abuse? He laughs and says I’m being dramatic when I bring this up.

As California considers a ban on child marriage, opponents have come out to defend the practice—including liberal organizations such as Planned Parenthood and the American Civil Liberties Union.

Planned Parenthood Takes Up Arms Against Ban on Child Marriage

California, a state controlled by Democrats if there ever was one, was set to pass the first full ban on child marriage in the country before beloved liberal institutions spoke out against the proposed legislation.

Only two states in the country, California and Mississippi, have no minimum age requirement for marriage. Most states that still allow the practice of child marriage set the minimum age at 16, with others ranging from 14 to 18. In California, anyone under 18 who wishes to be wed must have parental or guardian approval along with a court order. However, advocates for the child marriage ban point out that in California, statutory rape claims cannot be brought to justice if the victim is married to the perpetrator.

Opponents of the child marriage ban, which also includes the Child Law Center, as well as Planned Parenthood and the ACLU, have pushed back against the proposed law for fear it will affect the age of consent for issues such as abortion and gender transition. On the talk show “Washington Watch,” former Georgia Representative Jody Hice said he thought he was reading something from satirical Conservative website “The Babylon Bee” when he heard that leftist organizations were pushing back on the child marriage ban.

While we often think of child marriage as an issue that only happens in other countries, more than 300,000 children (primarily girls) under age 18 were married in the United States between the years 2000-2018. Texas currently has the most child marriages on the books, with California in second place. I guess that partly explains why there are over 1 million teen pregnancies a year.

What do you think? Ban it or support it, and why?