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Even with no actual experience I still believe I fall under this category, I wonder if I need to manifest the law of attraction or something even though I do think that’s bs.

You know when you have a gut feeling? I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years, it’s come to the point where I’m not as interested & I swipe on matches/reply to msgs every few days. Dating apps are the only way I’ve tried dating as I dont have a social life but dating apps have been successful for quite a few people I know. I’ve never had a real relationship, I saw someone for a few months maybe 5 years ago & something told me after I saw him that’d I’d be single for a long time. With him it felt like settling & I refuse to ever be with someone that made me feel like that again.

I had to use dating apps bc I’m not very friendly & I don’t get approached in person. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & I will say I have a very low sex drive (haven’t masturbated or had sex in 5 years). I don’t think this is a huge deal considering this isn’t something that will be an issue that early on, a guy can’t just look at my profile/see me in person & know that right off the bat.

I get matches (never been the issue) but it’s always: ghosting, fizzling out, lack of interest (can go both ways), feelings not reciprocated, just not a good match & some guys are just crazy. I just always have a gnawing feeling like guys aren’t attracted to me, I’d get told once in a while that some guy looked at me/found me cute but they never do anything about it. And I don’t either hence why I’m posting this

TLDR: based off the description, is this something that’s unlucky in love?

Besides the obvious, good looks etc. 28F, I’m told I’m attractive but I don’t have much success at all. Matches/msgs aren’t the problem it’s just the usual ghosting, fizzling out, they message once & don’t reach out again, looking for sex, just weirdos etc. I knew a guy that had most of his relationships start from the apps & tbh he wasn’t good looking but he was friendly & said at one point there were days when he’d send msgs back to back to women in bulk bc some days were just dry. All the apps are the same in my opinion, if anything the only one I wouldn’t touch at all is tinder. If women have it easier then why’s that not the case for me? Or is that generalizing? Your experiences or thoughts?

Or do they not? 28F, getting matches on the apps aren’t the issue it’s just always the usual: convos fizzling out, ghosting, not a good match, weirdos etc. I usually don’t message guys first, I swipe right on profiles first once in a while but I usually match with them once they like me first. I used bumble before almost 2 years ago & never again, the guy seemed normal but he was one of the most annoying people I’ve met & I only knew him for 3 days. The point I’m trying to make is: do you all actually put yourselves out there when matching with guys on the apps/in person or do the quality matches just come your way? Asking since you’re attractive & it’s usually assumed the guys will come your way… or am I generalizing? Can’t help but feel like good looking women don’t have to work to find someone