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So I'm a 50/50 girl because I believe that I should pay my own way just in case the first date doesn't work out. A guy asked me out and we decided to go 50/50 but he never showed up. He always said he forgot or was too busy to go on a date despite offering to take me. I didn't understand why this was because he wasn't paying for anything.

There was another guy I talked to which i wanted to go to a coffee shop date ( where we both pay for our own drinks) even though I personally hate coffee it just seemed like the cheapest option at the time. - this guy was rude and inconsiderate of me and I don't know why this was.

I thought men preferred 50/50 or super cheap dates but every time I do this the date either goes bad or the guy doesn't even seem interested in me. I constantly see men saying they appreciate a women who splits or is low maintenance/ cheap so I don't understand why I'm getting such ironic responses when I do this. Maybe I shouldn't be taking dating advice from the internet?

I recently got acquainted with a colleague from another division - he the softwares engineering and is stereotypically geeky and a bit socially awkward. I know he finds me attractive but I can’t tell if he’s actually interested.

I reached out to him for a chat on the pretext of getting advice and he readily gave me his time but was quite nervous during the convo. Had some trouble looking me in the eye, stuttered / shook a bit while taking to me and left abruptly after the convo ended. He also looked me up on LinkedIn before and after the conversation.

I was going doing my best to be friendly but don’t think it really worked. If I didn’t know better, I’d think I offended me. Is he intimidated by me or does he actually like me?