I recently got acquainted with a colleague from another division - he the softwares engineering and is stereotypically geeky and a bit socially awkward. I know he finds me attractive but I can’t tell if he’s actually interested.
I reached out to him for a chat on the pretext of getting advice and he readily gave me his time but was quite nervous during the convo. Had some trouble looking me in the eye, stuttered / shook a bit while taking to me and left abruptly after the convo ended. He also looked me up on LinkedIn before and after the conversation.
I was going doing my best to be friendly but don’t think it really worked. If I didn’t know better, I’d think I offended me. Is he intimidated by me or does he actually like me?
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I'm going to say he is probably a bit socially awkward, in general. He has probably never or rarely had someone come up to him to speak to him before, and was trying to find out more information about you to see whether you are a friendly person, what kind of person you are etc. He seems interested in you, if he searched you up on LinkedIn but anything more than colleagues or friends needs more clues. If he is comfortable around others, but nervous around you (I mean the same gender), I'd say he is definitely interested in you and hesitating. Perhaps you can be more consistent and be friendly towards him more, show a little interest in him too. You could also add him on social media, if you want. But let him initiate the date!
Thanks for this!
We were in a group / team for a game at a company social and I thought he disliked me / couldn’t be bothered by me as he was almost avoiding / ignoring me at the start. There was another female in our group which he got on with / talked to just fine. I then thought he wasn’t keen but towards the end, he initiated a conversation and had a really big smile when I engaged him which clued me on to a maybe?
Is this a good indication of his interest?
I mean he might be someone who gives off an unfriendly impression, but when you talk to him he is very lovely. Would have to see how he reacts as a first impression with other females, if he is only nervous with you then it is a sign. If he is nervous when speaking to you most of the time compared to other female colleagues, could also be a sign. But would need a lot more clues, hard to tell just from how he speaks. Try initiating conversation more often, see if he asks any questions about yourself, outside hobbies.
I remember when I use to be socially shy, I would be beating myself up if I thought I made a bad impression and the other person (I assumed) did not like me. But when they were speaking to me like normal I was extremely happy! BUT - everyone is different. Perhaps you need to understand him more, take things slow.
Seems like you have a good rapport with him, so why not ask him out for coffee?