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This is assuming he’s independent, has a good paying job (not rich but above average salary), owns his own house and has an interesting life story.

I’ve tried dating again for the last three months. I’ve gotten one straight but understandable rejection from a girl in her late 20s i met at a CrossFit gym (she’s got a boyfriend). I’ve gotten two flaky rejections on dating apps (both girls in their early 30s). I did get one date with a 35 year old woman. First date started good but it turns she’s an alcoholic (has no problem drinking and driving). I wanted no part of that.

I’m 40. In excellent physical shape for my age and got all my hair. I’m 6ft tall. I’m well traveled and have an interesting past (pro mma fighter). Most women guess I’m 3 to 8 years younger than I really am.

I know dating doesn’t get any easier when you get older. But I have to stay positive (pls don’t say “all the good ones are taken”.).

But seriously I don’t remember it being this tough 10 years ago. Not even close as tough. From 28 to 32 I had a lot of pretty young girls (19 to mid 20s) interested in me. But that definitely isn’t my target age range now. Now I look for women in their late 20s to mid 30s. But why are they such a pain in the ass?

Funny I was noticing lots of women on here have their actual faces in their profiles but very few guys do that. Now why is that?

I know society gives men little leeway to broadcast our problems, insecurities and emotions without looking pathetic. If we do share issues we better have a way to resolve them or at least be open to suggestions to take action. Just sharing a problem for the sake of sharing it is not considered masculine.

Not to say women are completely off the hook when it comes to judgment. However they don’t seem to publicly lose face the same way men do.

So my theory is men are more likely to look for “safe” and anonymous places to get their crap out. Either that or they get their crap out through action which can be good (hard work, exercise, martial arts, adventures, creativity, etc.) or bad (heavy drinking, drugs, gambling, escapism like porn, promiscuity, violence, etc.).

I notice guys tend to write in greater depth about their problems on here and that’s no coincidence. We feel safer opening up here

Overall I think it can be a good thing just as long as they are open to insightful feedback and don’t get trolled. I know some women are quick to write these guys off as “incels” but I vouch to say most are decent guys once they feel heard (whether you agree with them or not). Nowhere else is anybody going to listen to them. Men generally don’t participate in “mens groups”at the same rate women form their cliques.

This is also the reason why guys tend to anon more and rather keep their identities secret. We are much more vulnerable to harsh judgment.