Can’t deal with friend’s drinking problem?

[Anonymous]

My best friend gets excessively wasted every single time we got out, and I’m sick of it. It is awkward and embarrassing and the others around think it too, as they look at her weirdly.

She organised free entry, free drinks and free food for me, for 4 nights a week or more spanning many years.

My nights are ruined 80% of the time, by her making staggering around... and hot guys kind of stop talking to the group when they see her behaviour, and ruins my ability to meet a ton of guys (which is the main reason I go out with her).

i don’t want to confront her, as I don’t have any other people to go out with.

She behaves like a victim as she has no family and I assume drinks because of that. We all have problems and pain, and the solution isn’t in ruining other people’s nights out. She also gets jealous of me as she didn’t get male attention, like I do. I can’t help that. If guys talk to her, they see me and forget her and I’m happy to give them my number and flirt with them. Why the hell not?

Any solutions from anyone, or anyone also had the misfortune of a best friend like that?

Updates

+1 y

Had to get her removed from the club yesterday by security, as she so drunk and crying and distressed. So embarrassing. The guy that remove her is rumoured to have raped some woman, but it is what it is. She shouldn’t have been drinking out of control and left the people subjected to that, with no choice 😒

[NamerOfStars]

Hmm... In the long term, a confrontation of SOME kind or other is probably inevitable, unless you just refuse to go out with her anymore, but you can't solve other people's problems for them if they don't want you to.

In the meanwhile, have you tried suggesting things that don't have or allow alcohol? If and when she decides to dial it back, it might be good for her to know enjoyable things she can do without drinking, if only because it'll make the prospect less daunting.

[Fireguy17]

That is a tough one.
As with any type of over use or addiction it can only stop when that person has had enough and wants to quit.
You can talk to them and express your concerns, but be prepared that it may go no further.
Hopefully they will grow out of that type of behavior, some don't.
It is possible to do an intervention, but that may not go well either.
Good luck.

[20yearsolder]

You're going to have to be totally blunt with her, listen I'm not going to go out with you anymore unless you control your drinking. You ruin my fun every night and if this ends our friendship then so be it. I go out to have fun too not babysit you.

[TrillXHippy]

There is no solution since you don’t want to confront your own friend